UPDATE: The transphobe Ada has been defending says they misgender all trans women/NBs on Blahaj who are strangers - Blåhaj Lemmy
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Further information on the situation with the transphobia: Abigail has repeatedly misgendered me and defended her choice by saying she chooses to refer to all people of unknown gender as male. > Hey, Abigail here. I just want people to know the reason this person got banned is likely because of a deleted comment not included in that thread. OP called me ~~autistic ~~ mentally unwell for not liking politics. THAT kind of behavior is not acceptable on lemmy.blahaj.zone, so I reported the comment and let Ada handle it. Ada tried in good faith to reason with OP but it was clear they just wanted to fight. So yeah, they got banned. Ada’s a fantastic lady who’s been great at keeping the trolls at bay. > Edit: and the bit about me misgendering them is also wrong. Gender didn’t come into play until after I had left the conversation. English default on the internet is male for strangers. Source: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] WRT the statement that I accused them of autism for not liking politics, further info is available here: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026]
  • Water Bowl Slime@lemmygrad.ml
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    1 year ago

    But no one's pretending to speak Greek or any other language. The word has a common non-technical definition in English and that's what people usually mean when using it.

    I don't get what you're saying, does the origin of a word determine how it should be used or not? Because originally, negro was the accepted term used for black people (in English ofc) before it became a slur. A more relevant example would be the word "moron" - even though it was originally a formal diagnosis, nobody who uses the word nowadays is thinking about psychology.

    • DroneRights [it/its]@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      Or what about the R word? It originates as simply meaning "slow". Yet people used it with so much hatred for intellectual disability, it's deeply looked down on now. And if you use it outside of specific technical contexts to talk about slowness in general, you get some very funny looks. I think we need more funny looks towards people who describe neurotypicals as narcissistic to insult them.

      • Water Bowl Slime@lemmygrad.ml
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        1 year ago

        Well we can both type out narcissist, but not the r word and that says enough on its own. I don't think people are referring to NPD or even psychiatry in general when they say narcissist though I see what you mean. I dunno what word could replace it though... braggart? Egoist? Uh... Selfist?

        • DroneRights [it/its]@lemm.ee
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          1 year ago

          Actually I'd prefer if non narcissists didn't type it out when speaking outside a medical context. I'm allowed to say it because I'm a narcissist and I have a full understanding of the issues and aren't oppressing myself by using it. But a neurotypical cannot have the lived experience of ableist discrimination against pwNPD, and so I'd prefer they use the term pwNPD. It has fewer letters too. When I see a neurotypical calling us narcissists, it feels like when a neurotypical calls me an autist.