i went to protests and drove her car. tried to be careful, parked waaaay far away and so on and walked towards the thing, didnt bring a cell phone the whole deal.

well now its a while later and she got a citation in the mail for "reckless driving". letter reads "we were reviewing our records and found that you have an outstanding citation..." blah blah blah. its from SIX YEARS AGO when she was stopped at a red light and someone hit her and drove off. she filled out a police report for insurance reasons and they are saying they highway patrol gave her a ticket back then. but the letter is from our counties clerk of the court.

whatever, i know what this is its targetting harassment. they clearly were pinging license plates and picked hers up and they are targeting people. so she calls the highway patrol to get it cleared up. heres the problem

WHEN ON THE PHONE WITH THE HIGHWAY PATROL SHE TELLS THEM THAT SHE THINKS THIS IS FROM WHEN HER HUSBAND WENT TO PROTESTS AGAINST THE COPS AND THAT THEY ARE TARGETTING HER FOR POLITICAL REASONS AND SHE THINKS THE HIGHWAY PATROL ARE GOING TO HELP HER IN THIS

i cant

i literally cannot even like wtf why are liberals like this i love her to my own goddamn peril but she is so fucking naive she actually thinks the organization she admits is corrupt and oppressive is going to help her

going forward i cannot ever tell her about any political activity im involved with. i cannot trust my own spouse

  • LaughingLion [any, any]
    1·
    4 years ago

    this is the second time something like this has happened i just apologized for yelling at her and part of me is truly sorry for driving her car to this thing and getting her involved but i just will never be telling her about any political action i take in the future

    she is who she is and i cant trust her in that regard and it sucks

    we've been through so much together got past homelessness and complete destitution and both of us have gone through major health event involving serious surgery and been there for each other

    • bottech [he/him]
      ·
      4 years ago

      I suppose if its second time it happened then you are justified but still i think you should trust your own wife and try to make her understand her mistakes

      • LaughingLion [any, any]
        ·
        4 years ago

        "you have your opinion and i have mine"

        my opinion is that i could be killed or imprisoned and i cannot get her to understand how serious i am about that no matter how calmly i try

        she is a liberal in that she truly trusts in the system. she 100% thinks "it can't be all of them just some bad actors". i have been trying to drag her to action for years but she never goes. i think she needs to see the line of pigs down the street and smell the gas and hear the rubber bullets whizzing past before it will ever get through to her. then part of me never wants her or anyone to experience that, no matter how much it might be necessary for some people to see the light. real moral paradox hours who up

        • steely_its_a_dildo [any]
          ·
          4 years ago

          I'm not saying to sever. In fact it sounds like they are a very good person to you, but it does feel like you have differing opinions on morality and empathy. Or how much your life is at stake.

        • bottech [he/him]
          ·
          4 years ago

          Yeah i suppose if you truly think that its a threat to your life then it really is the only option

      • TheBroodian [none/use name]
        6·
        4 years ago

        try to make her understand her mistakes

        This is now how people work. This is also how you put a lot of strain on relationships.

          • TheBroodian [none/use name]
            7·
            4 years ago

            Supposing that this event has already happened, trying to force someone to see the events that have transpired from your own perspective (regardless of how correct it may be) is not at all necessarily going to have the desired result. Just as likely, it creates animosity because it comes with a lot of implications. Sometimes working through the problem is having understanding of who your significant other is, and just dropping it

              • TheBroodian [none/use name]
                8·
                4 years ago

                They don’t need to understand your viewpoint, they just need to understand that it’s important to you to never call the cops about anything

                So basically, "Just do what I say". Sounds like a great way for OP to maintain a healthy relationship.