i went to protests and drove her car. tried to be careful, parked waaaay far away and so on and walked towards the thing, didnt bring a cell phone the whole deal.
well now its a while later and she got a citation in the mail for "reckless driving". letter reads "we were reviewing our records and found that you have an outstanding citation..." blah blah blah. its from SIX YEARS AGO when she was stopped at a red light and someone hit her and drove off. she filled out a police report for insurance reasons and they are saying they highway patrol gave her a ticket back then. but the letter is from our counties clerk of the court.
whatever, i know what this is its targetting harassment. they clearly were pinging license plates and picked hers up and they are targeting people. so she calls the highway patrol to get it cleared up. heres the problem
WHEN ON THE PHONE WITH THE HIGHWAY PATROL SHE TELLS THEM THAT SHE THINKS THIS IS FROM WHEN HER HUSBAND WENT TO PROTESTS AGAINST THE COPS AND THAT THEY ARE TARGETTING HER FOR POLITICAL REASONS AND SHE THINKS THE HIGHWAY PATROL ARE GOING TO HELP HER IN THIS
i cant
i literally cannot even like wtf why are liberals like this i love her to my own goddamn peril but she is so fucking naive she actually thinks the organization she admits is corrupt and oppressive is going to help her
going forward i cannot ever tell her about any political activity im involved with. i cannot trust my own spouse
your kids, ops. your pets, ops. Your underwear? that one's a psyop
Hello, Mr. Einsatzgruppen officer, great day we're having, right? Well, I noticed my Jewish husband was on your extermination list and, well, I just wanted you to erase his name! _ Oh you won't? Can I please speak to your manager sir?
it is only out of my duty to ironic humor that i press the upwards arrow fuck
have you considered talking to your wife instead of a bunch of keyboard socialists on a web sight based on a banned subreddit based on a podcast about bernie sanders or something
yes of course we've been together for over 15 years this conversation has been had MANY times
more or less and whats worse is people i know have gotten brutalized and arrested by the cops and she knows this
Why is everyone assuming he hasn't tried to talk to his own wife...
It's a common refrain on reddit. redditors don't talk to other human beings so it's a safe bet.
Cant you just explain why she made a mistake and that way ensure no further mistakes are made?
this is the second time something like this has happened i just apologized for yelling at her and part of me is truly sorry for driving her car to this thing and getting her involved but i just will never be telling her about any political action i take in the future
she is who she is and i cant trust her in that regard and it sucks
we've been through so much together got past homelessness and complete destitution and both of us have gone through major health event involving serious surgery and been there for each other
I suppose if its second time it happened then you are justified but still i think you should trust your own wife and try to make her understand her mistakes
"you have your opinion and i have mine"
my opinion is that i could be killed or imprisoned and i cannot get her to understand how serious i am about that no matter how calmly i try
she is a liberal in that she truly trusts in the system. she 100% thinks "it can't be all of them just some bad actors". i have been trying to drag her to action for years but she never goes. i think she needs to see the line of pigs down the street and smell the gas and hear the rubber bullets whizzing past before it will ever get through to her. then part of me never wants her or anyone to experience that, no matter how much it might be necessary for some people to see the light. real moral paradox hours who up
I'm not saying to sever. In fact it sounds like they are a very good person to you, but it does feel like you have differing opinions on morality and empathy. Or how much your life is at stake.
Yeah i suppose if you truly think that its a threat to your life then it really is the only option
try to make her understand her mistakes
This is now how people work. This is also how you put a lot of strain on relationships.
Supposing that this event has already happened, trying to force someone to see the events that have transpired from your own perspective (regardless of how correct it may be) is not at all necessarily going to have the desired result. Just as likely, it creates animosity because it comes with a lot of implications. Sometimes working through the problem is having understanding of who your significant other is, and just dropping it
They don’t need to understand your viewpoint, they just need to understand that it’s important to you to never call the cops about anything
So basically, "Just do what I say". Sounds like a great way for OP to maintain a healthy relationship.
this is just more proof that the "you can disagree politically with your loved ones" sentiment is stupid. not trying to get at you OP, but not even being able to trust my spouse is one of my biggest fuckin fears jfc i'm really sorry you're in this situation
I was just telling someone that there's no way I could ever be involved with someone that doesn't share my views almost 100%.
There's a huge difference between two people being on opposite sides of anti-/pro-abortion, and one of two people acknowledging American imperialism on behalf of both major parties or whatever. Like, my political views basically decide whether you are a terrible person, not just a "difference of opinion". There's just too much to ignore.
Did you tell her these things you are telling us? Cause if you didnt I think you should. Of course be kind and calm and yadda yadda.
Also op have you considered not snitching on yourself on a public forum?
Sorry comrade, that blows.
Your protest opsec sounds like it was good, you went to all that effort, and then it was negated.
This wasn't worthless, however. You've adapted your threat model, and this mess reinforced one of the opsec weak points people forget about most often: their loved ones. You can be the most secure person in the world, but if your SO will disclose information then your security posture remains weak. I wouldn't exclude her completely, however. You should keep talking about opsec with her, and try to help her further understand why things like this are bad.
Join us over at /c/tactics for more irritating opsec posts.
I may have given you a different impression before, but I want to say that this is the most reasonable advice I have seen in this thread.
I too am in a long term relationship and some problems arise that honestly might have been deal breakers when we were dating and we have to deal with them because we love each other.
"You cops aren't part of that 'thin blue line' thing, are you? Anyways here's a map of all our meeting locations that have been stalked by anti-antifa. Could you send a car around to passively
endiscourage them?""Yes, hello, is this the socialist fascist party? Is there some sort of list you have with Jewish and Communist names? There is? I just want to make sure you have my name spelled right, it's Judy J-U-D-Y, Stein, S-T-E-I-N. My address? Sure, it's..."
Edit: in all seriousness, that's funny, cute, and scary. Fuck 13.
Lol 13 stands for all cops, I always get that wrong because fuck 12 would mean fuck are bastards.
