i cant believes i got dunked on in the comment section of a thread about lgbt issues now im going to be tarred and feathered and judged by secret police and sent to gulag camp and die. such is penalty around these parts for bi erasure even if accidental. i guess the world isnt ready to move a letter in an acronym. oof ow im being literally crucified on the gay alter for my bad takes, im literally being canceled why did no one tell me being canceled hurt this much ow my bones! i see a tunnel of light, theres stalin, mao, and marx standing beside a pearly hate in communist heaven, why am i falling, oh no fire bad im in liberal hell with henry kissinger!
Hi! I sort of came back here after seeing this post and a couple comments before it and just wanted to kind of speak to a bit of this.
“Was bi sexual who later became pan sexual after learning about the term”
I do not necessarily understand/agree with the way this is phrased. You didn’t become pansexual by learning about the term, you just discovered a definition that was personally more accurate to your understanding of your sexuality. Which is awesome! Like, I wouldn’t say I became bisexual by learning about the definition, ie I have always been attracted to more than one gender identity.
Shiri Eisner writes a book, “Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution“ that talks a great deal about how we must have intersectionality, especially between Bi and Trans people. It reflects a lot of my disdain for people who claim to be bi but are trans-exclusionists. I recommend this book to a lot of queer friends, especially those who are bi/pan, because we should also have solidarity, celebrating our similarities and differences. Posting a link to an excerpt here: https://radicalbi.wordpress.com/2011/02/22/words-binary-and-biphobia-or-why-bi-is-binary-but-ftm-is-not/
As far as the acronym/etc, I refer to the “third chair” argument near the end of the link posted above. I’m familiar with LGBTQIA+, and I think TPAN is fantastic to use when referring to situations experienced by members of those communities, but not others within the queer community.
I support our trans comrades and I support you as well, my pan friend. ☭
heres a really fun idea
I do not necessarily understand/agree with the way this is phrased. You didn’t become pansexual by learning about the term, you just discovered a definition that was personally more accurate to your understanding of your sexuality. Which is awesome!
dont do this! dont tell people how they are supposed to feel about discoverering THEIR sexuality
My apologies! I did not mean to dictate how others should feel about their own lived experience and realize that’s fucked up. I’m leaving it for posterity, and also including the full comment made by OP that I was in part replying to:
https://hexbear.net/comment/3856957
its not my apology to accept, but this is a very gracious response.
