Full disclosure, I'm white, so I don't have any direct experience with racism, but I am trans, disabled, and poor, so I do have some experience with oppression. That said, fuck people who demand oppressed people always remain civil and never express anything negative, lest their precious oppresser fee-fees get hurt. We're allowed to be fucking angry and tired of shit. We should be allowed to fucking vent without worrying about "allies" getting pissy. Solidarity comes from the top down. It needs to be unconditional. And it shouldn't depend on the oppressed being nice to their oppressors.

Sending you lots of love and solidarity, comrade.