So to preface this is posted in literature.cafe’s meta community but this question is primarily aimed at generally anyone in the lemmyverse who is NOT a cisgender man no matter what instance they may be in. The purpose of this thread is to present a stage for conversation for those willing to contribute, and although cisgender men are not excluded I kindly ask you to be mindful of the fact what this thread is meant for and try to avoid talking over others here. If you are a cisgender man interested in learning and seeing how lemmy can improve like I am: welcome. For those who are here to cause issues or talk over others though, you will be promptly removed. I do not know the demographic data of lemmy, but I would wager a large portion are male. And over the past few weeks I have witnessed women on numerous occasion discuss their discomfort on here. Reddit very much had a very “bro-y” feeling culture for many, that felt like a barrier to entry to many women. With lemmy, there’s a potential to break this. But the answer really is how? Lemmy has begun to develop into its own culture already independent of Reddit quite rapidly, and it’s been awesome to see but I am wondering if there’s a way we can push it a step further and implement ways to make the platform more welcoming to women than Reddit previously did. Thoughts?

"So to preface this is posted in literature.cafe’s meta community but this question is primarily aimed at generally anyone in the lemmyverse who is NOT a cisgender man no matter what instance they may be in. The purpose of this thread is to present a stage for conversation for those willing to contribute, and although cisgender men are not excluded I kindly ask you to be mindful of the fact what this thread is meant for and try to avoid talking over others here. If you are a cisgender man interested in learning and seeing how lemmy can improve like I am: welcome. For those who are here to cause issues or talk over others though, you will be promptly removed.

I do not know the demographic data of lemmy, but I would wager a large portion are male. And over the past few weeks I have witnessed women on numerous occasion discuss their discomfort on here. Reddit very much had a very “bro-y” feeling culture for many, that felt like a barrier to entry to many women. With lemmy, there’s a potential to break this. But the answer really is how? Lemmy has begun to develop into its own culture already independent of Reddit quite rapidly, and it’s been awesome to see but I am wondering if there’s a way we can push it a step further and implement ways to make the platform more welcoming to women than Reddit previously did.

Thoughts?"

  • BolsheWitch [she/her, they/them]
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    1 year ago

    she is the voice of a generation. Taylor Swift is more than a musician. She is an idea, a world-historical heroine, light itself.

    When people told me they hated Taylor Swift or (far worse) that they were "not swifties," I wish I had said in no uncertain terms: "I love Taylor Swift. I am in awe of her. I am set free by her. She will be the finest worldwide superstar our galaxy has ever seen."

    I wish, in those exchanges, I had not asked gentle, tolerant questions about a hater's ridiculous allergy to her, or Taytay’s fictional misdeeds and imagined character flaws. More deeply still, I wish I had not reasoned with anyone, patiently countered their ludicrous emotionalism and psychologically disturbed theories.

    I wish I had said, flatly, "I love her. I am gay as fuck for Taylor Swift. I am a big fat dyke for Gaylor.” As if I had been asked about my girlfriend or Fletcher. No defensiveness or polemics; not dignifying the crazy allegations with so much as a Gawker or PinkNews link.

      • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]
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        1 year ago

        That was always such a weird slur. There's an anti-gay slur that implies that a class of people is meant for burning, and then there's this, a big earthwork. Like what, is Peter the little hero of Holland going to put his finger in the lady to stop the flooding? Yeah real offensive.