How to you come to terms with the fact that you will eventually not exist?

Rant: This has been keeping me up at night for way too long and every time I think about it I feel like am literally choking on my own thoughts. I have other shit to do but everything seems so inconsequential next to this. I just can't comprehend why or how the universe even exists or how a bunch of atoms can think or that quantum mechanics literally revealed that the world is not loaded when you are not looking like how tf do you know that I am observing something.

Btw I am not looking for a purpose in life although this may be interpreted as me asking for that.

If anyone has the same problem as me good luck my friend just know that you are not alone.

  • I can't help you, but I can tell you that if you hold out for a couple of decades, you'll eventually stop worrying about it.

    One day, you'll realize that you wake up in pain and suffer through most of the day; that you are constantly annoyed that young people think they're the first and only people to discover or experience things that you've seen people discover and experience countless times - but you are also hopelessly jaded and desperately envious of their naivety and ability to be passionate about something other than injustice. That despite fighting for decades to improve the world, and believing in some cosmic karma, you see evil people succeed over, and over, and have a deep recognition that the world is fucked and getting more fucked with every dollar. When this time comes, the Void will become appealing: a rest and relief from pain and suffering. One day, you will realize that you no longer lay awake at night anxiously fretting about not being alive, but are rather looking forward to it.

    Hang in there, man.

    • joucker29@lemmy.ml
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      1 year ago

      Thanks pretty depressing. But it's nice to know that this will get better with time so thanks.

  • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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    1 year ago

    Radical acceptance. Do I want to cease to exist? Not particularly. Is it going to occur whether I want it or not? Yup. Is there some kind of afterlife? That's a boring question and I really don't care - there's no way that I can possibly know until I'm gone.

  • Margot Robbie@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Made a movie about it with a toy company's money.

    Remember that the way you are right now doesn't have to be your ending, and you can grow beyond your roots and find your humanity again.

    Postmodernist cynicism had it's time in the sun, but now it's time for a New Sincerity: So what if you live in a world where nothing matters, when you've always had the capability to choose what matters to you?

  • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Thousands of years from now, someone is going to invent the chronovisor, a device with the ability to tap into the properties of light to look into the Earth's past in the same way people today can look out into the universe and see what it was like in the past. And they're going to see you. They're looking at you right now. Everything you do probably matters to them. Give them an eyecatching show.

    • joucker29@lemmy.ml
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      1 year ago

      This is also really comforting it is opposite to some other comments that say to take comfort in the fact that you will be forgotten and nothing that you do matters. Giving people form the eye-catching show sounds pretty fun. Thank you for the new perspective!

    • radix@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      This is so anti-nihilistic that it makes me happy. Thanks for the perspective.

  • Lvxferre@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    Eventually you learn - not just rationally, but also behaviourally - that insignificance gives you a sort of freedom. Even if not solving the most important questions in the universe, you still got to live your life. Your pleasure might be meaningless, but so is your suffering - so you're free to choose one, another, both, or neither.

    Kind of off-topic, but regarding QM: what you're saying is the Copenhagen interpretation. I tend to side more with Einstein in this, the moon doesn't "magically" stop existing once you stop looking at it; it's just that the difference between "it exists" and "it doesn't exist" becomes insignificant from your subjective PoV.

  • spitz@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    The thing that helped me was "let go or be dragged".

    Death will happen whether I stress out about it or not. Stressing about it just contaminates the time you have. So I gradually learned to focus more on the "isn't existence weird?!" than "death is coming". And when you really get into the swing of it, your limited time becomes timeless.

    • PeWu@lemmy.ml
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      1 year ago

      I'd like to be sooner than later, but it's enough already. When I was younger, I thought the eternal life would be nice, but after contemplating it through my years, it would be worst curse for me.

  • Chefdano3@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Man, I can't wait until the day I don't exist anymore. My existential crisis is that I'm currently forced into existing.

  • KurtVonnegut [comrade/them]
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    1 year ago

    quantum mechanics literally revealed that the world is not loaded when you are not looking

    I don't know where you got that info, but that is not at all what quantum mechanics says. If you want a deep dive into what quantum mechanics actually says, here's a good video series from PBS by a real physics professor that explains it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wxG5KMAFik&list=PLsPUh22kYmNCGaVGuGfKfJl-6RdHiCjo1&index=1

  • megane-kun@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    That it is ultimately inconsequential is the reason for me to relax and enjoy what we have right now. Easier said than done, of course, but the way I think of it is this: if nothing I do matters, then it doesn't really matter what I do. And when I find myself taking things too seriously, it helps to be reminded of it. Life is absurd, but it doesn't matter, so why not have some silly fun in the meanwhile?

    What the ultimate reality of things are doesn't really matter to us living in this reality. To whatever end this reality was created for, if, for example, we're just a simulation, we can't really know and at the end of the day, shouldn't really care about. It's literally (in both senses of the term) way beyond us.

    • joucker29@lemmy.ml
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      1 year ago

      This is a really liberating way to think about life basically making the most out of a really shitty situation. Instead of dreading death take comfort in the fact that what ever you do is meaningless. Thank you for this.

      • megane-kun@lemm.ee
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        1 year ago

        You're welcome. Others might think it's too bleak, and I sort of agree. But it's freeing, as you've said. It allows us to focus on the here and now. And while we're here (for whatever reason, be it by choice or not), why not enjoy what we can?

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    18 days ago

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  • Izzy@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    I think you will need to make the transition from negative nihilism to positive nihilism.

    Aside from that I don't think I'm really convinced that interpreting the quantum wave function collapse when observed as the world not being loaded when you aren't looking at it is accurate. Even our best explanations could likely be a misinterpretation of what is really happening.

    This channel is great by the way. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FP6iyVJ70OU

  • MONKEYHOG@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    What's the point of worrying about it. It's inevitable, and when it happens you'll not care because you won't be able to. So what does it matter