adhd posting tip: when you inevitably write a 2000 word response to someone, go back when you're done and rewrite the first paragraph so it actually sets up what you ended up writing about - cause otherwise it's confusing for other people to read.

feeling simultaneously incredibly seen and incredibly called out

how dare you

My social anxiety would love to give a one word answer and move on, my ADHD/self-doubt/trauma says "are you sure that's enough? they'll think you are an idiot and don't know what you're doing if you don't elaborate"

Coworker/friend/loved one: "So why is XYZ happening?"

Brain: Aww yiss. I will anticipate all possible questions and forks in the conversation, say it all, thus saving everyone time.

Brain: Wait. Remember how you've been trying to keep it brief? Try that now.

Me: "Well, it was 8:30am after all."

Coworker/friend/loved one: "Er ... I'm sorry what now?"

Brain: They took the bait. THIS IS YOUR TIME TO SHINE

Me, 5 mins later: "... yeah so anyway, what was the question again?"