I've been holding off on making this post because I didn't want to distract from the trans issues that have been front and center on this site recently or be accused of concern trolling or tone policing. But since those issues don't show any sign of being resolved any time soon, I'm just going ahead.

I don't want to be the cis equivalent of a white person who gets big mad about being called a mayo or whatever. But it seems to me that the intention behind the term "cissie" is that A. it creates an equivalent to the t-slur to turn around on cis people and B. is intended to trigger the toxic masculinity of cis dudes by essentially calling them "sissies".

Fortunately, I'm not very invested in being a "masculine" guy. Unfortunately, I had a lot of experience having my masculinity policed growing up for being too effeminate, not liking the things I was supposed to like, being too emotional, being "f*ggy", you name it. While I definitely don't think it's intentional on the part of our trans comrades, being called a "cissie" in a hostile manner (as with some of the "CISSIES MAD CISSIES MAD" posts that go around this site) really triggers those feelings.

For me, it feels like being a white person who is called a mayo, except I actually spent my childhood being pelted with jars of mayo.

Edit: At the advice of @breadandcircuses, I want to be crystal clear that this not a call out post or or an attempt to tone police anyone. Making fun of cis people is cool and good. I react badly to a specific term and this is the fault of patriarchy, not our trans comrades. I posted here in c/menby because I know that there's a lot of chapos who deal with similar issues

  • TransComrade69 [she/her,ze/hir]
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    3 years ago

    A. it creates an equivalent to the t-slur to turn around on cis people

    That's the point.

    B. is intended to trigger the toxic masculinity of cis dudes by essentially calling them “sissies”.

    Cissies can be anyone on their cis nonsense, not just cis dudes. Cis women on their cis bullshit can just as equally be called cissies.

    My take is that if you're trying your best to be supportive of and listen to your trans comrades when they speak of their struggles, it doesn't apply to you nor is it intended for you. If you lay outside the rigid gender binary and have faced oppression for it, congratulations you understand a fraction of what we go through and again it doesn't apply to you.

    I can't stress this enough: Read Trans Liberation Beyond Pink or Blue. The transgender movement doesn't apply to only transgender people, but to everyone. Grouping everyone into a narrowly defined gender binary limits and oppresses us and also limits the means by which you express yourself as a cis person as well.

    Our issues are inexplicably tied to yours. You just don't realize it.

    Edit: Trans Liberation Beyond Pink or Blue is literally 147 pages and it gives great insight into what I'm talking about. I'm not going to sit here and bully you by being like "hehe cissie mad" when I could point you in the direction of something that will, more likely than not, genuinely help you. I literally scanned the whole book so you could all read it for free. There is no reason not to. That's 7 pages per night for 3 weeks.