Yeah, primal archetype of unconditional love and affection. The weaning process can be traumatic and those who don't get over it fully still feel a desire to return to that state. It's made worse by the general lack of positive emotional interaction masc folk receive so the brain returns to the only source it ever knew comfort.
I literally state "those that can't get over the weaning process" implying it's an abnormality in sexual development. An unconscious desire to return to a former state rather than advance.
Your attraction to your mate should advance beyond the primal yearning for comfort but as long as you treat them well and have fun I don't really care.
Now I understand, I thought you were saying that the mother fantasy was a weeb one.
I think there is a happy medium between literal children and someone your mother's age. The fact that you think the alternative to dating someone 20 years older is fucking literal children instead of someone your own age is a bit weird though.
Contextually, you were going hard against the OP with some built in armchair psychology concern trolling against them, and I called it out.
Chat is a text only community for casual conversation
I was doing Freud as a bit. It's chat not c/SeriousFuckingDebates.
You complain about hyperbole against your apparent position, then without hesitation you hyperbolized my position.
I never complained about hyperbole actually. I just thought bringing up pedophilia as the only alternative to liking milfs was a little silly. Either you're a debatebro or maybe you were making a Freudian Slip ;D. Just kidding on the last part, I just wanted to bring up Freud again. I respect going so hard for milfs that you accuse me of being a pedophile though.
I find it problematic and concerning to imply that it is “normal” for an adult to not desire to be nurtured or cared for. I highly doubt this is the case.
I think it is normal for an adult to be comforted certainly. But I think that adults are adults and children are children and they should behave differently. You shouldn't have your wife nurture and care for you in the same way your mother would. Wanting to be loved and comforted is human and applicable to anyone at any age. But if you go so far as to seek out partners so you can recreate the feeling of being a child, then it's a bit different.
I'm not saying OP is doing that to be clear. I'm not a psychologist, and so I can't say for sure. I'm just speaking to a wider phenomenon.
There has been no attempt to confirm causation here, merely a gesture at a phenomenon that sounds like it could happen because it appeals to our arbitrary conceptions of masculinity, independence, and adulthood.
I think expecting objective scientific evidence over something as subjective as a "type" is a bit much. How would one even go about proving causation in something as as complex as an emotion?
Since we don't understand the brain as a whole system, I admit we can't "prove causation" of anything yet. But we can attempt to understand it by analyzing what we can observe. Ancient astrologists couldn't discover the physical laws that govern how stars are created by observing them. But they did learn how the stars moved across the sky and had great predictive power when it came to their paths hundreds of years in the future. Even if all of their explanations were bunk, they were still able to etch out some understanding while science had yet to catch up.
Yeah, primal archetype of unconditional love and affection. The weaning process can be traumatic and those who don't get over it fully still feel a desire to return to that state. It's made worse by the general lack of positive emotional interaction masc folk receive so the brain returns to the only source it ever knew comfort.
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I literally state "those that can't get over the weaning process" implying it's an abnormality in sexual development. An unconscious desire to return to a former state rather than advance.
Your attraction to your mate should advance beyond the primal yearning for comfort but as long as you treat them well and have fun I don't really care.
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Now I understand, I thought you were saying that the mother fantasy was a weeb one.
I think there is a happy medium between literal children and someone your mother's age. The fact that you think the alternative to dating someone 20 years older is fucking literal children instead of someone your own age is a bit weird though.
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I was doing Freud as a bit. It's chat not c/SeriousFuckingDebates.
I never complained about hyperbole actually. I just thought bringing up pedophilia as the only alternative to liking milfs was a little silly. Either you're a debatebro or maybe you were making a Freudian Slip ;D. Just kidding on the last part, I just wanted to bring up Freud again. I respect going so hard for milfs that you accuse me of being a pedophile though.
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Wow, rare UlyssesT L
Also, harping on me for using emojis by using them yourself is kinda funny :P
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It was literally 3 sentences. None were judgmental in any way and Only one was even about the topic.
I can't believe you're actually upset about the emojis. I'm just having a fun time in casual chat XD.
Anyway, I don't really want to continue the conversation, you win I guess. BUT ONLY if you post your favorite Lenny face in response. Otherwise I win.
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I think it is normal for an adult to be comforted certainly. But I think that adults are adults and children are children and they should behave differently. You shouldn't have your wife nurture and care for you in the same way your mother would. Wanting to be loved and comforted is human and applicable to anyone at any age. But if you go so far as to seek out partners so you can recreate the feeling of being a child, then it's a bit different.
I'm not saying OP is doing that to be clear. I'm not a psychologist, and so I can't say for sure. I'm just speaking to a wider phenomenon.
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I think expecting objective scientific evidence over something as subjective as a "type" is a bit much. How would one even go about proving causation in something as as complex as an emotion?
Since we don't understand the brain as a whole system, I admit we can't "prove causation" of anything yet. But we can attempt to understand it by analyzing what we can observe. Ancient astrologists couldn't discover the physical laws that govern how stars are created by observing them. But they did learn how the stars moved across the sky and had great predictive power when it came to their paths hundreds of years in the future. Even if all of their explanations were bunk, they were still able to etch out some understanding while science had yet to catch up.