So, I have autism and also very bad social anxiety, so I don't have a massive amount of social interactions, so it is easy for me to remember pretty much all of them. This also means that I spend way too much time obsessing over any significant interactions I have, particularly negative ones, which then just make me feel more upset and anxious than I was at the time and sometimes leads to a breakdown. I am also completely unable to deal with conflict
For whatever reason this website, unlike the original subreddit is way more invested in dunking on each other imo. This site has a very hostile atmosphere where it feels like everyone is constantly at each others throats and it makes me just not want to come here at all.
I also want to take exception to some of the recent posts by @TransComrade69 about the Beyond Pink or Blue book, particularly the part in the original post about it only being like 170 pages, so you could read it in like 3 days, so if you don't, it is reactionary. No, one of the symptoms of autism is executive function issues, which I suffer from quite significantly. I could read that book, but it would require me using a lot of energy and necessetitate me neglecting other parts of my life. I struggle hard enough to read books necessary for classes, if I were to try and read that book, it would take months, if not over a year for me to complete it. So, while I understand why @TransComrade69 wants people to read the book and is pushing it, as I am sure there is lots of valuable information within it, I do not at all appreciate the tone that was taken in parts of the original post.
Anyway, I've deleted this account twice already, and I'm doing it for the 3rd and probably final time after this. Social media in general is bad for a lot of these things, but this site kind of takes it to another level.
i also have social anxiety and like it does not feel worse in dunking then the former subreddit is my opinion on this like the subredit would just generally have better things to aggro at, there was always a dumb troll or someone making a bad take in new so it would generally not happen to you if you were just slightly smart about it i feel, like i don't know i have been more stressed online since the pandemic started, for example twitter feels unbearable to me these last months, so i kinda think it is the overwhelming stress of living like this probably is making everyone online insane which i understand it sucks sometimes but i find people in here to generally be nice which is why i am still in here, i guess.
Maybe it is just nostalgia for the old sub or other factors like you said, but I definitely never felt this way on the subreddit.
Something I forgot to mention in the OP is that the change to ban debatebro behaviour is maybe the biggest sign to me that autistic people are unwelcome here. Banning people for what amounts to not being able to read social cues and continuing conversations after the other person is no longer interested. Gee, I wonder who that is going to end up targeting
like i understand the fear, especially because i am not an native speaker of english so i am ocassionally having to re read whole conversations to figure out if i misunderstood what someone meant or if i did express myself badly in a sentence, so it is a concern on my mind that i could be banned for saying something i did not meant but it is a thing online like since forums if we are to have a moderation team we should have rules to make moderation easier and clearer to users, and i think the user union as a place where you can try to argue you case makes me feel a bit less woried about it, but as i said twitter is unbearable for me right, so i just use it when i want it now, and i feel better, so if this place does not make you should might want to do the same because no website is worth your mental health or suffering. like not saying log out and stuff, just saying that i would probably take some time off from the site if i was feeling like this