So, I have autism and also very bad social anxiety, so I don't have a massive amount of social interactions, so it is easy for me to remember pretty much all of them. This also means that I spend way too much time obsessing over any significant interactions I have, particularly negative ones, which then just make me feel more upset and anxious than I was at the time and sometimes leads to a breakdown. I am also completely unable to deal with conflict

For whatever reason this website, unlike the original subreddit is way more invested in dunking on each other imo. This site has a very hostile atmosphere where it feels like everyone is constantly at each others throats and it makes me just not want to come here at all.

I also want to take exception to some of the recent posts by @TransComrade69 about the Beyond Pink or Blue book, particularly the part in the original post about it only being like 170 pages, so you could read it in like 3 days, so if you don't, it is reactionary. No, one of the symptoms of autism is executive function issues, which I suffer from quite significantly. I could read that book, but it would require me using a lot of energy and necessetitate me neglecting other parts of my life. I struggle hard enough to read books necessary for classes, if I were to try and read that book, it would take months, if not over a year for me to complete it. So, while I understand why @TransComrade69 wants people to read the book and is pushing it, as I am sure there is lots of valuable information within it, I do not at all appreciate the tone that was taken in parts of the original post.

Anyway, I've deleted this account twice already, and I'm doing it for the 3rd and probably final time after this. Social media in general is bad for a lot of these things, but this site kind of takes it to another level.

  • Staines [they/them]
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    4 years ago

    I'm glad someone has said this, because I feel the same way.

    I get the impression that neurodiverse people are actually looked at as enemies on this site rather than marginalized people talking about the challenges they face in society. Banning people for being "debatebros" hits neurodivergent people unnecessarily hard, and at every turn we are discouraged from interacting with this community. Frankly, we can't really stand up for ourselves that much and I'm amazed this subcommunity was made at all. I think we'll just remain a mostly invisible marginalized group that are treated as enemies.

    Personally I've just started using this site less and less.

    The funny thing is, I read through all of Beyond Pink and Blue months ago when it was first mentioned, but I don't want to get banned by even touching on any sensitive content like that -- and if the only answer to that is "just think the right way about every single thing!" then I don't think I want to be on this site.