So, I have autism and also very bad social anxiety, so I don't have a massive amount of social interactions, so it is easy for me to remember pretty much all of them. This also means that I spend way too much time obsessing over any significant interactions I have, particularly negative ones, which then just make me feel more upset and anxious than I was at the time and sometimes leads to a breakdown. I am also completely unable to deal with conflict

For whatever reason this website, unlike the original subreddit is way more invested in dunking on each other imo. This site has a very hostile atmosphere where it feels like everyone is constantly at each others throats and it makes me just not want to come here at all.

I also want to take exception to some of the recent posts by @TransComrade69 about the Beyond Pink or Blue book, particularly the part in the original post about it only being like 170 pages, so you could read it in like 3 days, so if you don't, it is reactionary. No, one of the symptoms of autism is executive function issues, which I suffer from quite significantly. I could read that book, but it would require me using a lot of energy and necessetitate me neglecting other parts of my life. I struggle hard enough to read books necessary for classes, if I were to try and read that book, it would take months, if not over a year for me to complete it. So, while I understand why @TransComrade69 wants people to read the book and is pushing it, as I am sure there is lots of valuable information within it, I do not at all appreciate the tone that was taken in parts of the original post.

Anyway, I've deleted this account twice already, and I'm doing it for the 3rd and probably final time after this. Social media in general is bad for a lot of these things, but this site kind of takes it to another level.

  • QuillQuote [they/them]
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    3 years ago

    Do not tell others when it is and isn't okay to feel upset. If OP is being honest, which I see no real reason to doubt, they likely experience being shit on and told off for not being able to do stuff "that's super easy" and everyone else can do. We're constantly aware of this, and afraid of being told to fuck off because we can't keep up with what is expected.

    So yeah, seeing a post like that with a tone like that, however valid and acceptable it may be for what it actually is if TC69 is being honest, which again I have no reason to doubt, can still be painful

    So to get MAD at that person for feeling hurt and upset because something they're afraid of is in some capacity happening, and to post their feelings about it to a support community because they're in need of support

    You need to log the fuck off for a while

    • PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS [he/him, they/them]
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      3 years ago

      I didn't say anything about OP's response to the tone of TC69's post, nor will I. I responded to what was factually incorrect in the OP's post. It's misleading to others to imply that because someone has difficulty reading that they would be unable to access the text