So, I have autism and also very bad social anxiety, so I don't have a massive amount of social interactions, so it is easy for me to remember pretty much all of them. This also means that I spend way too much time obsessing over any significant interactions I have, particularly negative ones, which then just make me feel more upset and anxious than I was at the time and sometimes leads to a breakdown. I am also completely unable to deal with conflict

For whatever reason this website, unlike the original subreddit is way more invested in dunking on each other imo. This site has a very hostile atmosphere where it feels like everyone is constantly at each others throats and it makes me just not want to come here at all.

I also want to take exception to some of the recent posts by @TransComrade69 about the Beyond Pink or Blue book, particularly the part in the original post about it only being like 170 pages, so you could read it in like 3 days, so if you don't, it is reactionary. No, one of the symptoms of autism is executive function issues, which I suffer from quite significantly. I could read that book, but it would require me using a lot of energy and necessetitate me neglecting other parts of my life. I struggle hard enough to read books necessary for classes, if I were to try and read that book, it would take months, if not over a year for me to complete it. So, while I understand why @TransComrade69 wants people to read the book and is pushing it, as I am sure there is lots of valuable information within it, I do not at all appreciate the tone that was taken in parts of the original post.

Anyway, I've deleted this account twice already, and I'm doing it for the 3rd and probably final time after this. Social media in general is bad for a lot of these things, but this site kind of takes it to another level.

  • Notaroboticfish [any]
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    4 years ago

    I want to be absolutely clear that your comments were the impetus for this post and me leaving. Not the sole reason, but what pushed it over the edge.

    In that thread, I posted what were at most minor liberalisms, yet instead of trying to discuss anything, you just immediately went for dunks. And then in this thread, you just wholesale label me as a terf. It is particularly insulting because you even conceded what we were arguing to another user, but then continued arguing and debating it with me.

    Like, I don't care if you disagree and want to explain why, but the dunking and immediate assumptions of bad-faith (which you have continued throughout this thread) are what make this site unbearable for me

    • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]
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      4 years ago

      You were being terfy as fuck to me, deleted all your history and and now you're here calling out transcomrade69.

      Fuck off TERF

      • Notaroboticfish [any]
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        4 years ago

        I deleted all my comments and had a meltdown because you bullied the fuck out of me and are continuing to do so. Literally go fuck yourself

          • Notaroboticfish [any]
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            4 years ago

            You are still doing everything I criticised you for originally. Fucking where have I even been a transphobe? All I said was that men are generally stronger than women so have a natural advantage in sports like cycling. That is true and objective and not up for debate, otherwise women would be getting the same times as men, which they don't.

            It has nothing to do with trans people. For the record, trans women should be allowed to compete with women because they are women. Men should not. Desegregating sports literally only hurts women with some exceptions in sports like gymnastics where women have an advantage or like archery where there is no natural advantage. I still don't see how any of this is sexist or Terfy, but maybe I would have been able to see that if at any point you had given some kind of explanation of your ideas rather than immediately resorting to dunks and snark.

            Then I don't like being called a POS for not being able to do something easy for NTs. Apparently that is transphobic? Nobody likes being insulted like that, particularly when it is something out of your control. If I said I was illiterate (and we were talking with our mouths, obviously) would you have listened to me? Probably. Why is that if I say that I have a disability which means this task is not easy for me that you think I am looking for excuses and it's actually not that bad? Why is it that you are happy to call out transphobic but look over your own blatant ableism?

            • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]
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              4 years ago

              I'm not shitting on you for not reading the book I'm shitting on you for using transphobic and sexist biotruther arguments and then not doing any self-reflection when you're called out for it. Instead you resort to calling me a bully for daring to question your opinion. This whole thing stinks of bad faith.

                  • Notaroboticfish [any]
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                    4 years ago

                    Point me to that, because I have not seen it. I have only seen you instantly calling me a terf or a transphobe with no further explanation. In the original thread it seemed like you didn't think that greater muscle mass and endurance was an advantage in cycling? That's the closest I've seen to an explanation, however it was nonsensical

                    EDIT: Also, you said you were not calling me out for not reading the book, but how else am I supposed to take this part

                    You were being terfy as fuck to me, deleted all your history and and now you’re here calling out transcomrade69.