• Mario_Dies.wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      1 year ago

      No sense arguing with tankies. Every take I've seen from hexbear itt is absolute brainrot, and I can't wait until we can block entire instances.

      Signed, A gay, married anarchist

      • tocopherol@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        1 year ago

        I'm a queer anarchist and I've posted plenty on hexbear, is it possible you only notice the takes that cause you the most instinctive reaction? There is a more diverse array of views there than people on other instances realize I think. And I've seen more constructive discussion there than most places on the internet, including lemmy.world and other instances.

        • Mario_Dies.wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          1 year ago

          That's great, although I'm not sure how well someone who fundamentally opposes statehood can find much meaningful discourse there.

          Look below, and you'll see tankies accusing me of transphobia and all manner of evil simply because I choose to be married, even though I by no means exclude or invalidate anyone else's relationship.

          It fucking sucks when people can defend a state for excluding gay people (or any people) from rights that others enjoy. It's in itself LGBTphobic. Not me -- them

          • tocopherol@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            1 year ago

            The only 'tankies accusing' anything I saw in the convo were people mentioning that "marriage is a patriarchal institution", which I don't see how that is calling you a transphobe even if you disagree. Someone did mention trans people don't care about marriage because they are being murdered, maybe that is what you are referring to, it really didn't come off to me like anyone was calling you a transphobe but maybe I'm wrong. I didn't see anyone say that you couldn't be married, or that people can't enjoy having a marriage, to me that is separate from critique of marriage as a patriarchal institution. But yeah, I don't know why anyone would defend a state for anything. That's part of why I do feel the need to engage with more 'state-friendly' socialists, to figure out what about it seems necessary to them, or if there is some greater flaw with my anti-state belief.

              • brain_in_a_box [he/him]
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                1 year ago

                authoritarian regimes

                As opposed to those non-authoritarian regimes that you, as a self proclaimed anarchist, definitely believe in.

              • autismdragon [he/him, they/them]
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                1 year ago

                Damn you got really mad at someone for saying that they are interested in why pro-state socialists feel that way and want to learn. Why does someone wanting to learn make you so angry? Maybe because you're closed minded and refuse to listen and learn in the slightest?

                Someone with as much obvious privilege as you, who wields it in conversations freely, calling others priviledged for the mere act of engaging with people who think differently than them is quiet rich.

                ETA: I think you need to maybe think about introspecting instead of lashing out when someone accuses you of being a priviledged white gay westerner "pulling up the ladder". Because that is a quiet common phenomenon (see men like Pete Buttigieg for example). White gays who aren't poor saying "ok, we won marriage equality, dont care about the rest of it" is very frequent and you ARE acting like that in this thread.

      • kristina [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        Hexbear has the largest number of trans people than any other instance lmao

        Yet another gay trying to split away from the T rather than trying to understand why so many trans people hold views like this

      • autismdragon [he/him, they/them]
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        1 year ago

        As an anarchist you should agree with "marriage is a patriarchal institution" since that take was pretty much invented by anarchists.

      • ThereRisesARedStar [she/her, they/them]
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        1 year ago

        The critique of marriage as a patriarchal institution was invented by anarchists lmao. I'm just a "tankie" but I'm well read on anarchist lit, why aren't you as an anarchist?

          • ThereRisesARedStar [she/her, they/them]
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            1 year ago

            I'm not aware of any queer anarchist critiques that don't acknowledge that marriage, especially as recognized by the state, is a patriarchal institution, they just go on to elaborate how that can be subverted within queer culture. Do you have any links or recommendations for writings that argue that marriage recognized by the state isn't a patriarchal institution at all?

            • GenderIsOpSec [she/her]
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              1 year ago

              dw they'll get back to you after they write their own.

              it's going to be Harry Potter but Harry is gay, nothing else changes

        • Mario_Dies.wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          1 year ago

          What the fuck are you talking about, Jesse?

          Edit: I believe trans people should have equity too, and the freedom to enter into whatever type of relationship that they so choose, whatever that may look like. Ironically, it's you who are trying to invalidate other people's relationships. I'm doing nothing of the kind.