Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we're all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

  1. Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.

  2. ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.

  3. E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it's possible).

  4. Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.

  5. Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we're here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

  • Dyskolos@lemmy.zip
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    1 year ago

    In theory? Yes. In reality? No.

    Besides all the practical reasons already mentioned, it's simply a question of marketing to get people into it. Which costs money noone wants to pay because it kills the principle of breaking free of corpo-hold. Without marketing you'll end up with the nerds that are already here (majority). And of those, the majority are probably also male.

    And on top of that, you might find other people living in NYC but what about smaller cities or even foreign ones? With reddits userbase you probably could, but you don't reach them because they already prefer mainstream-stuff 😐

    • CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org
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      1 year ago

      Yep. Dating services are hard mode for the network effect, because you need to find a bunch of users that are close to you.

      • Dyskolos@lemmy.zip
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        1 year ago

        Aye. Would kinda defeat the purpose if there'd be noone near. And the chances that one person near you does also like you is.... Well... Let's say, it sucks for the majority of men.

        • CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org
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          1 year ago

          I'd actually guess the man would leave first most of the time. There's way too many dudes that rely on dragnet mass messaging to anyone they find attractive, to the point where they make it difficult for all the other men.

    • AlolanYoda@mander.xyz
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      1 year ago

      You know, I am single and have been curious about dating apps for a while. But I never really got over the hurdle of making a profile because of how much of a hellscape it seems. I may be curious enough to make a profile in this website tonight (fully expecting 0 users in my entire country)

    • swab148@startrek.website
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      1 year ago

      Thanks! I'm almost wondering if a federated dating platform would even work, given the moderation challenges.

      Edit: Also there were like, three women in my area, so that's problematic.

    • AlolanYoda@mander.xyz
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      1 year ago

      I tried it. Pretty cool, but the closest user to me was 270 km away. Maybe one day I'll meet her, but for now I guess it doesn't have critical mass for me.

  • Oka@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    I'm a coder and I have no idea how to do this

    Do you want it to show matches with people who are around your location, or anyone on the internet? If it's the latter, maybe try starting a dating community, if there isn't one already.

    You could have people start a thread with the basic info: age, location, gender, sexuality, etc. Then what you're looking for: age range, hookup or long term, etc.

    The comments could be general questions like an AMA to get a better idea.

    If someone likes your style, they can send OP a DM