I wanted to play some 5E the other day and since the world is still full of deadly disease, I decided it would be nice to try and find a group online. I kept my options as broad open as possible. I have a flexible schedule. I can play on any night of the week. I got like 3 level 1 character sheets already rolled up. I'm willing to join in any campaign that tolerates players who might not know exactly what they're doing. I thought finding a game wouldn't take any time at all

Then when I actually tried doing it, I learned that this whole experience is like job hunting except even worse because your employer/GM doesn't even bother trying to maintain a degree of professionalism and there's fucking hordes of people applying to every fucking game that looks interesting. I found a posting on Roll20 the other day that looked great, and I would have applied until I noticed that fifty other applicants had gone already. Even when I do find a posting that isn't already flooded with other people it's extremely unlikely I ever get a reply. One guy was interested and responding until I mentioned I was watching Jeopardy, responded with "Jeopardy huh? lol" and fucking ghosted me. Apparently watching Jeopardy outside of the game is a deal breaker???

I don't know enough about 5E or DMing to host my own game, and I didn't really want to anyway because I wanted to be a player in 5E so I could learn how to DM it. Is this a normal experience for trying to find a group online? Because I still really want to play but I'm already burnt out from how much effort it takes to find a game. Anyone have any advice? Better ways to look? Games that they are running soon and looking for players?

  • EugeneDebs69 [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    I haven't tried finding people to play D&D with online but I imagine it's sort of like trying to find people to play multiplayer games with. I've tried a few different subreddits n shit but like finding people who aren't complete chuds is hard and I've had no luck. I just wanna build a base in rust with some ppl or play Valheim or something

    • StLangoustine [any]
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      4 years ago

      Oh, it's much worse. If the guy you found to play Dota with turns out to be some sort of odious weirdo, you mute him, finish the game and never play with him again. If the GM or a player you found online starts slipping questionable shit into their descriptions after second session, you might have already invested too much time in preparation to make a clean cut.

      I'm surprised people have any success at all at playing games with internet randos. Hell, some people that were recommended to me as good GMs by my friends ended up being those guys or powergamers as players.