Ah, okay, my bad. No, looking back on it, your advice is helpful especially with you mentioning about this being a learned part of your perspective.

Other than that, I apologize for assuming you didn’t know what I was going through because if I hadn’t assumed that, then your initial post would have made sense. Idk why I assumed that too, probably because I’m working in “real life, no one understands this” mentality, but you’re right.

Your insight here was incredibly helpful, and I think I’ll go forward being able to be better about things since I’ll probably be like “just remember what septbear said, don’t assume your immediate emotional reaction is how people view you.” It’s been a life long struggle of mine, and I only recently (like maybe 2 weeks ago) was diagnosed with adhd and RSD, and so it’s been like “I have all of the validation that I have ADHD + RSD but none of the work has been done by myself to now reframe my life experiences and build reinforcing strategies.

I want to stress that I apologize for the portion of my response where I essentially said “you don’t know what I’m going through!”, because if I had exercised a bit of good faith, I wouldn’t have immediately assumed you weren’t working from an informed perspective.