Bearlifter [he/him]

I don't want to doxx myself too much but when I went to go change my name on my CRBA (consular report of birth abroad, it's my birth certificate) I didn't realize that there was a listing for sex on it too- so now I have to get that changed even though all my other ID paperwork has the right gender marker and name on them. :(

I'm stuck in Texas, would anybody happen to know how difficult it is nowadays to just like... Get that changed real quickly? I just need the proof that my gender marker has been corrected so I can get that one damn document fixed.

Anecdotally when I was younger and mine were coming in wearing something over them didn't change how big they got even though I was wearing really tight sports attire- but just keep in mind that when they do get bigger any collected sweat from your underboob can lead to rashes and general discomfort, so if you feel more comfortable wearing something, just make sure to wash the area often and make sure the skin is dry before wearing more clothing. I also put a little bit of baby powder underneath to keep myself feeling comfy. Hope this helps!

I feel like there would be a lot less Trans Distress™ if we chased gender euphoria instead of focusing solely on our dysphoria.

I personally have been there before in my own journey and felt that guilt that you're experiencing, like if I'm not crying myself to sleep every night I'm not trans enough.

But, I kind of liken it to taking a walk in chilly weather, you're uncomfortable, awkward, trying to cover yourself up, that kind of thing. Gender Euphoria to me feels like putting on a comfy coat on that chilly day- it feels nice, feels right, I'm warm now. I wasn't going to die walking around with no coat, but it sure does feel a helluva lot better with one, yanno?

I've been lurking around following your posts and I just wanted to chime in for a second. Hope it's not offensive or anything and really hope it makes sense. I have nothing but love and pride watching your personal journey unfold and whatever you decide, it will be a choice you made for YOURSELF and that's what's important 🥰

I think bearsite has less of this than other trans spaces, but it's still here, I've seen trickles of hatred of masculinity, of being male, of men, trans or cis. I won't deny that it makes me feel, (I can't speak for all transmasc folks here) sort of like I don't belong here, I've wandered into a space that isn't intended for me, even though we're all trans together.

I keep this card around on my desk because I love it. Look at that doofy face ❤️

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This picture goes so hard, woah 😮

Is this it? Closest I could find for you.

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Yeah phallo. It's really expensive so I am required to have insurance, and they only take employer plans :( I'm stressed ASF about it

I'm afraid I'm going to be stuck in-between phases forever... I was lucky enough to have work insurance to get stage one done but I lost my job and I haven't been able to get another one that offers insurance. I feel like a freak, I'm starting to not want to be naked with my husband anymore either. It's been a year since stage one, stage 2 was supposed to be 6 months after... I don't know what to do. Hundreds of applications, declined by all of them.