Have done this, not video, but texts. She was horrified and embarrassed and swore it would never happen again. And then it happened...like, thirty more times. So I don't think that'll work unfortunately

Oh duh, thank you, I can't believe I didn't think of that myself sooner. Yeah maybe I'll go there too. Though I haven't even opened that since they killed RiF

Yeah I've tried directing her to the /stopdrinking community but she doesn't want to do that. She's had some bad experiences with people online. And I guess people in general. She does like to read though, maybe if it's a book she'd be more open to it, thank you

Well I had issues with drinking myself when I was younger and I got through it decently fine. I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience yourself but I'm really hoping it doesn't turn out that way here. Though I do know the possibility exists. When she's sober she still says she wants help. As long as she doesn't give up entirely on herself I'm not giving up on her either.

Thank you very much, I wasn't aware of the distinction, I'll look into that. I have been debating calling the national alcohol abuse hotline myself and just seeing if they can give advice on how to deal with this myself.

I do know the satanic temple yeah, neither of us are religious. She might actually be a bit jazzed if it's from there honestly, thank you, I'll look into it

Neither of us want children and yes I really true love her. I'm not planning on leaving her I just want to help her through this. I know she can do this and I believe in her and I'm not going to give up on her until she gives up on herself. I'd take a bullet for her no second thought.

Yeah she has an appointment with a non religious help group soon, AA would just make it worse for her I know. The thing is when she's sober she really DOES want to get help. And then she gets cravings and she caves and it's always just one but then just one turns into two turns into 6 turns into 12....She hates herself the next morning and it's real regret. She wants help, and she knows she needs it, but she's just struggling with actually going through with cutting everything out

I know a fair few Republicans have also said they wanted this. So I fully expect them to oppose this on the basis of "if a dem proposed it, it must be SATANISM".