OK. So I found another one of us out in the wild. I think, I'm about 90% sure. He (he still wants so be referred to by his dead name and he/him pronouns) has made comments about republicans not liking "people like me"*, and based on this and appearance I had a hunch. I was not going to press, of course, because I didn't want to out him or be pushy. Today he made a comment about my name saying that I had it correct for two weeks and then they started messing it up again (in paper). I said that it felt weird, because I haven't gone by that name for a while. He then tells me that it must feel bad (I realize I've been clocked at this point)**. I said that it wasn't too bad, most people still use my name in speech, and that's only in writing. He then tells me he hasn't bothered to tell others his name yet. It was at this moment that I realized my hunch was correct. He says he hasn't gone by this name anywhere else, and it's been three years since he took it. Doesn't want to have to deal with harassment from the other people there (totally get that). I asked if he wanted me to use his name, and he didn't tell me. Probably doesn't want it being said at a bad time, which I understand.
Either this, or he's just talking about a name change and I'm completely interpreting this wrong, but I don't think I am. I think I finally got clocked, and the time was finally right (loud-ass glorified golf cart in the middle of the woods) for him to ask about me. Unfortunately for him, this is completely pieced together based on what I think I heard, and I have no idea how far the conversation got because I unintentionally tuned him out a bit trying to thought-process, and I struggled to focus on his voice over the sound of the wheels and the engine.
But hey, at least there's ONE other person in my life who is probably trans, because I swear I was starting to think I was the only one.
*He's a radlib
**Despite using my proper name, and having visible boobs, and wearing nail polish, and sometimes eyeliner, the cissies still think I'M CIS.
This takes force-femming to a whole other level