HornyOnMain [she/her]

A blahaj user posted a link to this screenshot of you publicly defending a cishet man talking about how they would like to have sex with a trans man and explicitly saying their fetishisation would be exactly negating what the trans man wanted to do with his body

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They provided additional context but since the comment was on a hexbear thread and hexbear is currently down I can't link to it unfortunately

That was me, I was referring to myself and how I personally came to realise I was trans through being a femboy, if it came off as offensive I'm sorry and I'll remove the post

Edit: hexbear is currently down so I can't, I'll remove the post as soon as hexbear comes back online

Edit 2: hexbear is still not coming back up so I'll report the post on this account and ask the mods to delete it, sorry for any discomfort I caused you

I've edited the post to reflect that.

Though imo saying that it's not just one but multiple of the mods being ableist isn't the best of defenses

Edit: ok since hexbear doesn't seem to be coming back up I'll report it on this account asking one of the mods to delete it

Lmao I remember when this was first posted on the 196 subreddit back when there were still massive struggle sessions about vaush there

There weren't any complaints until the mod of the second largest comm on this instance started throwing around slurs and leaking dms - also hexbear admins were unaware of previous chaser things the mod had publicly defended on 196 until a blahaj user brought it up in a thread about a blahaj user claiming enbys on hexbear were faking being non binary for clout (the enbyphobic comment was pretty swiftly deleted by the mods here after it was brought to their attention thankfully)

They posted a comment that included the word libt*rd and then deleted an anarchist hexbear users comment calling this out, then they called him "braindead" in one of the removal reasons for him pushing back on being accused of being a tankie iirc. After getting more push back on the initial comment they edited the slur out.

Edit: here's the link to their apology for the use of the slur in which they use the slur again: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2092636

"I’ve also never called anyone slurs! I used a semi-slur in an extreme hypothetical example of what I wasn’t saying"

It's a shame to see the two instances split especially since I was pushing for the two instances to not defed pretty hard on the hexbear side, but the mod of one of the largest Comms being openly ableist, doubling down by deleting accusations of ableism then being ableist again in the removal reason and also defending chasers is pretty damning imo

1984 that the evil hexbear mods wont let us see this smh

I'm from hexbear and ngl i'm like, idk, pretty embarassed by how a lot of the other hexbear users were acting in regards to the news of the defed question, i decided to like make an account here too in case of defederation so i can still post in your queer communities too - though i've decided to like not upvote any posts in this thread or cast a vote in the poll next week since i have an obvious bias towards remaining federated with hexbear and think it would be unfair to like, interfer with the blahaj community's decision