I think the fact that they’re fully defederating over accusations against a single community instead of just blocking that community is telling.

If I didn’t know OP from other meta threads I would say they’re trying to cause drama. But I don’t think that’s the case. I’m willing to give the benefit of the doubt.

I’m not sure if this is another troll or what’s going on. This is in really bad taste.

Isn’t it funny how there were no complaints until there was a post here asking about defederation?

Agreed, that needs to be dealt with as well.

I mean, if you’re unsatisfied, there’s an easy way to remedy that.

Seems like this might be moot now?

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/1997167

They must have done something that wasn’t a full defed or haven’t done it yet. I literally just had a hexbear user respond to me in a blahaj post

Not sure if you read the entirety of what I wrote or just reacted, but there’s no need for name calling.

If you have something better I could compare the vibe on hexbear, I’d be open to it, but that was the only place I’ve seen that engages in intentionally inflammatory meme-based vibes politics in the same way hexbear does. That kind of discourse is not the kind of discourse I want around blahaj. And they did a LOT of it in the original post for this.

And yes, queer solidarity is important, but only to people who are willing to return the respect needed for solidarity.

If a trans person punches me in the face every time I see them, me saying “well I need to keep them around because of queer solidarity” makes me an idiot. Of course I wouldn’t want to have them around, they keep punching me in the face!

Maybe something’s not rendering right in Memmy. There was no reference to anybody saying “you’re not trans” in the parent post to what brain_in_a_box was responding too. Because I didn’t know what they were referencing, I asked. They responded.

I hope that clears it up for you.

I will admit that it was poorly written, but if you read what I said it was that the VIBE was like T_D. And I stand by that. They’re intentionally inflammatory vibes based politics. And I love that for them, but I don’t want any community that celebrates “dunking” on anyone around me. I highly tailored my Reddit use specifically to avoid assholes like that because it makes for discourse shitty.

Maybe I’m not seeing it, but what is transphobic about this post?

I think the comment that Gormandt posted earlier is pretty revealing that there’s a decent chunk of the community is more interested in dunking than discussion. Even to the point of “honest discussion is pointless, dunking is all that works”.

The the whole “dunk on a lib” community should be banned, right?

Correct, I was not. Ada’s response moved me to neutral because it brought understanding to why we federated in the first place, and I was ok just blocking their communities and moving on with my life.

And then their users started in on the thread.

I think admin would like to try to maintain some trans solidarity, which I completely understand.

Agreed. And I had not intended to cause the drama that it did. I was hoping for a civil discussion about hexbear because I was getting really frustrated by constantly seeing their communities show up in my “All” feed while I’m still building my subscription list. Like seeing a story I thought would lead to an interesting discussion, opening up the comments and just saying “goddamnit” and blocking another community was really frustrating.

Now they I’ve blocked most of their big communities it’s been better, but their behavior in they thread as well as some of their community’s reaction to proposed rule changes has me thinking that maybe my initial reaction was correct.

Yea, but that shouldn’t have to be said. Like it seems like basic courtesy to me.

They also had posts on their instance directing people to our meta post. If you look at that thread, it’s mostly hexbear users now

I was fairly neutral after my first post and the admin response until I read that post. There are hexbear folks in that post explicitly saying “the whole point of federation is to dunk on people on other instances”. Also saying things like “you can’t have civil discussion with libs, you have to dunk on them”. Like they’re saying “we’re federated to be assholes to people who disagree with us”, which is a hard pass from me.

To be clear, it has nothing to to with being leftist. It has nothing to do with being trans. It has everything to do with them wanting to be assholes.

Hopefully their mods can reign stuff in to prevent that kind of behavior.