I don't think you're monolithic at all honestly. The the fact is, hexbear isn't a hivemind, is a lot of different people. There's just a very vocal minority that makes your instance look bad.

Just use something like souping up. It has negative connotations around people of Asian descent, what they eat and what kind of car they supposedly prefer to drive. We don't see people going around saying I'm n-ing my computer. Being conscious of the actual meaning of words you're using for things just helps keep the conversation on track and helps keep conversations on topic. Even if that word is ultimately used for something that the general consensus is, a good thing.

Aye. If I want to see their content I can read it on a hexbear amount. They just flood my feed with memes and only barely tangentially related comments that are trying to bait people into saying something that they think gives them the high ground. They're like the arch Linux users of identity politics.