naive [he/him]
- 0 Posts
- 23 Comments
- naive [he/him]touserunion•**Edit: I did request a ban after all.** Petition to remove u/Amorphous as sitemod and maybe even ban them from the community for Islamophobia.·4 years ago
it is not the job of marginalized people to do emotional labor to make you okay with the fact that you’ve hurt them. the assumption that you are owed that labor is part of the system of oppression that makes life miserable for people you call comrade. it’s the same notion as when a loved one informs you that you’ve hurt them - if you make it their problem to make you feel better about the fact, you’re being an asshole. deal with the hurt you’ve caused, then deal with the feelings about yourself that having hurt someone causes within you.
this is such a core issue on this site and I’ve watched it drive away so many good comrades - especially, I’ve personally noticed, queer people, women, and people of color. I am certain that other marginalized identities are similarly driven away from this place.
Something Cass said that resonates here.
you’ll get more dopamine hits from setting much more specific and iterative goals, and from building failures and setbacks into the plan.
Can you elaborate on this? And maybe using an example?
- naive [he/him]to
·4 years agoDon't have any advice comrade except to say I'm in the same boat. Only thing different is I'm looking for jobs but my ADHD brain couldn't retain shit in college so I'm struggling to relearn stuff. Still I'm going at it but everyday is a struggle. So solidarity comrade :heart-sickle: . Don't be too hard on yourself.
Still can't believe how good the first Hyperion book was. Each character story was so compelling.
I've got nothing to add except to say its my favorite series of all time, all the flaws included. Just wish Jordan was alive to write the last 3 books and the rumored sequels. I love the world he created and its rich history.
I’ve only read SA till book 2 but I’m assuming you’re speaking of the
spoiler
Parshendi?
Oh, I haven't really seen a proper critique of Sanderson's works. Why do you think he/his books suck?
Oh I liked all the main character arcs so far(Book 11). I'd be hard pressed to choose one which i liked the most.
spoiler
Mat dealing with his sense of responsibilty, Perrin coming to terms with his dark side, Nynaeve overcoming her need for anger as a way to cope with increasing challenges. Egwene.....well if I had to say which character arc pleased me the most it would be hers. She has grown into her role as Amyrlin so well. Not only that but she presents a nice contrast to Rand in leadership and how she navigates challenges whereas Rand just bulldozes through them:::
About removing books from the 'slog' I feel ya but I've come to adore the series so much that any excuse to stay a bit longer in Randland is good enough for me, no matter how slow it is.
Ps. Yeah the the harem thing was cringe. Jordan should've just made Aviendha and Elayne a pair instead of the harem stuff. The subtext is definetly there for that.
Tbh I feel Rand is one of the most fleshed out characters in fantasy lol. I guess his arc is not concentrated in one particular book like
spoiler
___Perrin in CoT but spans over the entire series. I also feel his struggle with being the Dragon Reborn is also well shown throughout the books. Its subtle but I feel its there. Its things like these where I think a reread will really show the subtleties missed the first time around:::
Yeah I agree about the diversity part though it was hit or miss. For me I liked the internal struggles faced by the main characters and how they grow over the course of the series. I know RJ is not the first to write such a progression but it is so satisfying for me to read idk why lol.
Same. Had been dragging my feet on book 6 for 3 years and then lockdown had me go through till book 11. What do you like about it so far?
I hear ya. Till where I did read the book, it was one of the most refreshing take on fantasy I've seen.
Spoilers
Currency inflation, what its effect would be and how it can be used to one's advantage was not something I was expecting in a fantasy book . And that's just one of the many interesting things present in the book. I'm definitely gonna read it at some point but I'm a very moody reader with an aversion to tragic endings lol.
Every review of the book said the ending was gut wrenching and after reading it halfway through I can kinda see how it will happen. I didn't drop it per se but waiting for the right time to finish it, when I hope not be too affected by ending.
I dropped the first book thinking my heart can't take an ending like that.
- naive [he/him]to
Solid recs. Yeah the politics in most fantasy is not...good. Ngl tho, I really dug Goblin Emperor. I guess it was the purehearted nature of the MC and the court intrigue that appealed to me.
spoiler
_What did you think about the conversation between Maia and the guy who blew up the air ship?
I've heard about GGK and Robin Hobb and tried some of their works but I tend to drop books even if they're "good" unless something in it captures my interest early or if there's some idea in the book that I want to read about. So there's been a lot of false starts with those two authors but I hope to get around to them eventually.
I haven't yet read any of NK Jemisin's works so your recommendation might actually make me pick up the trilogy.
Thanks <3