the_river_cass [she/her]

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  • the_river_cass [she/her]
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    toPost Maine On Mainbitter farewells
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    4 years ago

    one of the more personal reasons I'm leaving is that I notice the same thing and it creates a duty for me to speak up, enmeshing me in too many pointless arguments with people who have no intention to reflect or hear criticism.







  • I thought I could put my shit away and work with someone who has been abusive to me in the past, if I kept our relationship within an organizing context... but he managed to trigger me twice with the same comment... first, because I was trying to tell him I had a boundary with a course of action and he dropped something emotional on me to try and make me feel guilty about that / reconsider (even if it's unintentional, I just don't have space for that with him any longer...), and second, because the emotional content was about something really close to a traumatic incident I just had. I have so much work to do and now I've gotta put all this energy into putting myself back together? I really fucking didn't need this tonight...