this is insane, not using pronouns is clearly a reasonable way to not misgender people. how is that "a roundabout way to make it technically not a problem"? aren't gendered pronouns a weird and unnecessary holdover from a sexist language history? why not call everyone comrade?
if the trans mod of a trans community was wrong about their grievances - it's happened in the past - he should criticize it? it's ridiculous to say every grievance held by every trans person is correct, people are wrong a lot- i can remember many reddit dramas where multiple trans mods were expressing their grievances and they contradicted each other, leading to endless drama