And the “scare people away” thing is usually something painfully innocuous like me moving my appendages in a quirky way or being too passionate about something that I find interesting

Where tf are you all irl?

  • TheLastHero [none/use name]
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    1 year ago

    Sometimes I can't tell if I've scared them away as you said or if I'm being too aloof or something?

    Like I intentionally try not to say anything too personal or forthcoming so as to not scare them but maybe I'm overcompensating and coming off like I don't really care

    Or maybe I'm just missing something that's really obvious to other people lol

    • BeamBrain [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      Yeah same, tbh. One of the biggest things I internalized in high school was "don't do anything that might possibly draw attention to yourself, because if the wrong person notices and jumps on it, they'll bully you for years to come." I'm in my 30s and I'm still unlearning that lesson.

    • stigsbandit34z [they/them]
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      1 year ago

      sadness this is why I’ve preferred to say nothing instead of anything my whole life, but it hasn’t gotten me anywhere. Turns out that goes the same way when you actually do try to say something

      • Comp4 [comrade/them]
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        1 year ago

        I dont think Im that easy to scare away. Like you would have to puke on my shirt first time we meet to give me a really bad impression.