• YearOfTheCommieDesktop [they/them]
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    11 months ago

    my parents could never wrap their heads around the fact that I could be smart and yet struggle with certain schoolwork (and other aspects of life)

    hahaha glad nothing like that ever happened to me side-eye-2

    • north [he/him, comrade/them]
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      11 months ago

      Raise your hand if you were described as “bright and promising” in early school years and “wasted potential” by your early twenties. Bonus if you were also told your favorite interests were a waste of time.

      • WhatDoYouMeanPodcast [comrade/them]
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        11 months ago

        Through herculean effort by those around me (my main stat in life is luck) I found the wherewithal to fight the urge to burn out and applied myself to my studies (went from failing grades as a high school freshman to all As in grad school), got into BJJ, and tried very hard to box check a bunch of things that make you look successful.

        I can confidently say that if you have a favorite interest you should hold onto it and cherish it like every person you enjoy having in your life. Say goodbye if it's time, but while it's there enriching your experience it's more important than any success could be. Not everything is meant for everybody and I'm coming to the conclusion that simply following what enriches you and never comparing is the best you can do. May the lessons you need come to you and may your joy be genuine.

        • north [he/him, comrade/them]
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          11 months ago

          Thanks comrade. Glad you made it out OK. I wish someone that I looked up to had been there to say it 25 years ago. Though my partner and I are living childfree, I hope to spread that sort of influence to the youngins in our family.

        • GeorgeZBush [he/him]
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          11 months ago

          Too late for me, all my enthusiasm for anything has been bled out

          • Kuori [she/her]
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            11 months ago

            you can walk it back! it's not a cliff's edge, you can start to enjoy things again stalin-heart

      • Llituro [he/him, they/them]
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        11 months ago

        i dropped out of grad school after 5 years. 9 out of 10 times, anything to do with "gifted children" is that they're autistic children that have school as a special interest

    • Nagarjuna [he/him]
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      11 months ago

      Love to avoid my homework because of anxiety and then get punished for it so the anxiety spirals and then show up to school without homework, get punished again, show up back home with bad grades and get punished yet again.