• kristina [she/her]
    hexbear
    160
    11 months ago

    It's because I upvote anyone with pronouns in their username on Lemmy shrug-outta-hecks

    • ZapataCadabra [he/him]
      hexbear
      93
      11 months ago

      It wasn't fun at the time, but I'm glad we had the pronouns struggle session long before federation.

              • GreatWhiteNope [she/her]
                hexbear
                9
                edit-2
                11 months ago

                Adverbs, more often than not, add absolutely nothing of value. They’re just these annoyingly redundant, excessively ornamental words that people use to sound more sophisticated or to emphasize something, but they end up making sentences needlessly complicated. And if you’re like me, who prefers things straight to the point, it’s infuriatingly frustrating to deal with.

                I love how chat gpt can’t stop itself from writing like this in an argument about why you shouldn’t.

        • Tankiedesantski [he/him]
          hexbear
          45
          11 months ago

          In an ideal world yeah. The silver lining is that it purged a bunch of terfs and people with hidden chud tendencies so we're probably better off for it.

        • MerryChristmas [any]
          hexbear
          45
          edit-2
          11 months ago

          Everyone talks about it like it was a big one, but the subreddit was home to so many different nominally leftist tendencies and a lot of the more reactionary elements needed to be purged before this community could become what it is now. Can you imagine this place if it were full of bad faith devil's advocates in every thread about trans issues?

          So that's why I view that struggle session as necessary. It served as a honeypot that lured all of the most bigoted users into exposing themselves at once. It's also a moment in our history that we can point to and say that this issue has already been definitively decided. We support trans people here, end of story, and anyone who doesn't like it can eat a quick ban without a second thought. On any other forum you'd get endless relitigation and cliques arguing that their buddy's ban was undeserved, but here? Crab party, baby. No drama, no arguing - just crabs.

          crab-party crab-party crab-party

          • silent_water [she/her]
            hexbear
            23
            11 months ago

            I mean, it was big in the sense that it spread over dozens of threads and hot relitigated every couple of months before the mod team came on board with purging them on sight. otherwise, I agree. it was good and necessary, and this site wouldn't be the place it is without them. as a trans person, this is the only website I feel totally comfortable being out on that isn't an exclusively trans space and it's entirely because we successfully changed the site culture. it gives real bloomer vibes on the capacity of people to grow and change.

            • GreatWhiteNope [she/her]
              hexbear
              4
              11 months ago

              Yea like I understand not wanting to put your pronouns from an info sec perspective, but you can just use different pronouns or pick none.

              • silent_water [she/her]
                hexbear
                2
                11 months ago

                I don't. if you care that much, lie. lying about yourself periodically is great from an infosec perspective because it makes it unclear which bits of info can be stitched together into a profile of a user. if lying about your pronouns makes you uncomfortable, congrats, now you understand why trans people don't want to get misgendered online, and all you're missing is why we don't want to get singled out for having pronouns set while the vast majority don't.

          • somename [she/her]
            hexbear
            20
            11 months ago

            Yeah, drama can be good sometimes. Better than letting it fester.

        • kristina [she/her]
          hexbear
          34
          11 months ago

          No struggle sessions give a great opportunity to purge

        • VILenin [he/him]M
          hexbear
          18
          11 months ago

          Remember that one guy who went to Stupidpol to cry about it

    • Stylistillusional [none/use name]
      hexbear
      14
      11 months ago

      Tbh, I rarely even have to check someone's pronouns when commenting because using someone's hyperlinked username is clearer anyway (which is why there is no other explanation than transphobia to want to deny others the ability to display their preferred pronouns).

      But now pronouns allow me to quickly tell whether someone is a hexbear comrade. trans-hammer-sickle

      • kristina [she/her]
        hexbear
        16
        edit-2
        11 months ago

        Also it's kinda fun to see the ladies coming out of the woodwork to make fun of libssicko-fem