Is it because they're saying that they are straight that makes it an issue? "I'm only attracted to women, and that includes pre op men" kind of attitude. I can see why that's wrong, bit surprised at myself for not thinking of that on my own.
Or are you saying that having a genital preference in general is wrong? Would he have been wrong if he said he'd only date cis or post op women?
it's that trans people aren't defined by their genitals and trying to express attraction in terms of genitals is fucked from the start. you can't see anyone's genitals until you're in bed with them -- if you don't want to have sex with someone until they're post op, that's fine, but saying you aren't attracted to people with the wrong genitals reverses cause and effect.
Is it because they're saying that they are straight that makes it an issue? "I'm only attracted to women, and that includes pre op men" kind of attitude. I can see why that's wrong, bit surprised at myself for not thinking of that on my own.
Or are you saying that having a genital preference in general is wrong? Would he have been wrong if he said he'd only date cis or post op women?
it's that trans people aren't defined by their genitals and trying to express attraction in terms of genitals is fucked from the start. you can't see anyone's genitals until you're in bed with them -- if you don't want to have sex with someone until they're post op, that's fine, but saying you aren't attracted to people with the wrong genitals reverses cause and effect.