Does anybody else do this?

I've finally realized that the weird imbalance I feel in every relationship I actually care about is that I am far more deeply interested in other people than they are me. I've come to the realization that I make other people a special interest for myself, and that it hurts me when they don't reciprocate this thing that they admittedly never asked for but do happily soak up.

What do?

I'm finally going to have to scrape up the money for therapy and the courage to actually talk to someone other than an anonymous internet rando about this, aren't I? You guys can't actually tell me the magic words to fix me, right?

I am not loving it

  • Melonsman [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    I do this as well and for me personally it was because I was in denial about my bad childhood. Basically my parents were dangerous and unpredictable and fawning over them made them more manageable. Now my brain equates being liked to safety so I always try too hard in social settings. I’ve been working on it but pretty sure I need therapy too lol