https://lemmy.world/post/6709939

  • UlyssesT
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    • StalinwasaGryffindor [he/him, comrade/them]
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      1 year ago

      Honestly I do this one so often myself ohnoes

      I have a tendency of seeing my conversations like a dialogue tree where I see all the ways what I’m saying could be confusing or upsetting so I’m constantly like softening/qualifying what I’m saying. It’s an attempt to ensure the exact meaning I’m trying to convey gets communicated without causing a distraction though upsetting people, but I’m not sure it works. I’ve been trying to notice these tics more to avoid the extra word count but obviously it’s still a struggle lol

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    • silent_water [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      I'm trying to wrap my brain around this and struggling. I use it as a garnish to make whatever I'm about to say more empathetic, especially if it's going to sound harsh without a little window dressing. I don't understand how you can possibly sprinkle it into virtually every sentence. but I'm also someone who rewrites entire comments if I've backed myself into a corner and have to reuse a word so I probably just have very different kinds of neuroses.

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        • silent_water [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          embrace chaos and obsessively rewrite every sentence until you've removed all the unintentional repetition. or like be normal, or something.

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