https://lemmy.world/post/6709939

  • UlyssesT [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    de-pain-threshold Around where I live, "honestly" is how most sentences open and I fucking hate it.

    • StalinwasaGryffindor [he/him, comrade/them]
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      1 year ago

      Honestly I do this one so often myself ohnoes

      I have a tendency of seeing my conversations like a dialogue tree where I see all the ways what I’m saying could be confusing or upsetting so I’m constantly like softening/qualifying what I’m saying. It’s an attempt to ensure the exact meaning I’m trying to convey gets communicated without causing a distraction though upsetting people, but I’m not sure it works. I’ve been trying to notice these tics more to avoid the extra word count but obviously it’s still a struggle lol

      • UlyssesT [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        I used to say "honestly" a lot as a sentence opener too. It's like an ex-smoker that really hates smoking. yea

    • silent_water [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      I'm trying to wrap my brain around this and struggling. I use it as a garnish to make whatever I'm about to say more empathetic, especially if it's going to sound harsh without a little window dressing. I don't understand how you can possibly sprinkle it into virtually every sentence. but I'm also someone who rewrites entire comments if I've backed myself into a corner and have to reuse a word so I probably just have very different kinds of neuroses.

      • UlyssesT [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        I am certain I have ways of talking (and writing) that have patterns of their own and repetitive phrasing, but my personal subjective experience is that people saying "honestly" out loud as a near-constant sentence opener makes people seem less honest and it annoys me.

        • silent_water [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          embrace chaos and obsessively rewrite every sentence until you've removed all the unintentional repetition. or like be normal, or something.