• professionalduster
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    1 year ago

    I genuinely really struggle with this. Not in a "this is wrong" way, I agree with the screenshot, but if someone who is obviously bad appears to be nice, smiley, friendly, down to earth all of a sudden, I'll find it really hard to stay mad at them. Definitely a weakness of mine.

        • TheDialectic [none/use name]
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          1 year ago

          I think I have the opposite problem. I want to be in a place where I have empathy for everyone. I feel like it is important to be able to fully math out why some people deserve the choppy. Cause like. Try to picture the full scope and beauty of a human life and then they fuck it up by being a nazi chop chop

        • mayo_cider [he/him]
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          1 year ago

          I used to be a people pleaser, but as I started understanding and trying to get rid of my internalized bigotry and toxic attitudes, I basically managed to channel the misplaced empathy from people taking advantage of me to marginalized people

          Of course there were shitloads of other factors to growing a spine, but when it finally came to cutting off people, I didn't feel any guilt because it was easy to see how misplaced the empathy had been

    • Grandpa_garbagio [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      it's a tactic they're using against you, disarming you. it's so they can hurt you later.

    • PeeOnYou [he/him]@lemmygrad.ml
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      1 year ago

      sociopaths excel at tugging on heartstrings when it can benefit them. that's part of how they maneuver their way into whatever positions of power they want.