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  • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]14•6 months ago

    This is your irregular unscheduled MEN'S SHIRTS POSTING, inspired by LARGE HOODIE POSTING

    I may or may not be preaching to the converted here but initially when I came out, I burned my entire wardrobe and for the longest time had almost no men's clothes anymore. Trouble is, I got really tired of how so many "women's" tops are kind of garbage, too tight or uncomfortable, especially with autism/sensory difficulties. So after five or six years, I ended up grabbing a bunch of men's tees from the thrift, in sizes ranging from Large to 4XL. I thought, what's the worst that could happen?

    Of course they are incredibly comfortable & highly durable! It's been almost three years since I bought the initial round, and only one out of like five is in need of replacement. Of course they feel great to wear, being so loose, with most of them not even having tags (!!) and being made of a variety of cool materials.

    Surprisingly though I also find that shit to be really gender affirming. This has been true of the few bits of men's clothes I've gone back to, but after so long on moans, none of it fits me right anymore! The shoulders in all of the shirts seem to expect that I'm several inches wider than I actually am, my waist feels lost in this giant thing, and they're not cut for boobs which is funny. And they're so long they're almost like skirt length! I feel like I'm inhabiting this huge goofy shirt the same way cis women usually would? Maybe a reductive way to look at it, but it's been really cool seeing how I have changed by observing how I literally no longer fit certain clothes at all.

    Win-win imo, huge fan, easy recommend, plus they're cheap as hell.

    Anyway the impetus for this post was that some of my internet friends are kind of baby trans, like less than two years, and are still in the "I won't even wear boyshorts cause they have 'boy' in the name" phase. I get it, and maybe they'll just be comfortable exclusively with feminine non-boy clothes forever which is fine too! I just wanted to pose the idea that wearing dude clothes can actually be affirming too, Idk.

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]3•6 months ago

      I didn't really know ahead of time but it is such a scam that we gotta pay so much more for so much less material and some of the weirdest fucking materials too for women's clothes compared to the old cotton t shirts I had. Also, it was great just tossing everything into one pile in the washer and dryer and not giving a shit if they got wrecked instead of how carefully I gotta seperate now and what has to air dry, what's gotta tumble dry, what's allowed to just be dried. Scrubs are at least a little more durable and that's mainly what I wear now anyway