Seriously the stories I've read about dudes threatening to drive to womens house and murder them or something over rejections is insane.

Have any of the ladies here had to deal with a psychopath like that?

  • FearsomeJoeandmac [any]
    hexagon
    hexbear
    43
    5 months ago

    That's not love and that's not companionship. I fail to see the point of wanting a relationship with someone you had to intimidate into giving you a chance or something.

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
      hexbear
      59
      5 months ago

      Patriarchy, r*pe culture, some dudes feel entitled to womens' and AFAB presenting bodies.

      After I socially transitioned even before HRT, I didn't really pass, but as soon as I put on a skirt that was the most I've been "accidently" touched and squeezed. It's hard to get if you're cis male and look it because it just doesn't happen - but as someone who has been on both sides, it's real and it's shitty.

      • @GarfGirl
        hexbear
        39
        5 months ago

        yeah, like most of the people around me were fine when i used to just crossdress occassionally around them but like there was this one guy who was really creepy and sexual about it and if i ever tried to call him out on it he'd say it was just a joke and stop doing it for a bit and then start again

        tldr: kill all men

      • bubbalu [they/them]
        hexbear
        11
        5 months ago

        I had a very strange experience like this when I went to the Ren Fair as a vaguely greek goddess. There were lots of older cis women who were very handsy and aggressive with me. I was thankful it wasn't any men. But the number of psycho guys I met while dating as a men @.@ fellas can be wild.

    • RyanGosling [none/use name]
      hexbear
      7
      5 months ago

      I mean, serial killers do horrific things and that never solves their abuse or intimacy issues. It's usually about having control over their measly lives. If she accepts them, great, the abuse will be withheld for a couple of months. If they get rejected, then it's another strike on their list of grievances.