Last night she was coughing in a manner my asleep brain read as "gross", so unconsciously noped the fuck out of there and slept on the sofa. I can't believe my non-awake brain got it.

She tested positive a few hours ago, so now I just have 7 days to worry. I probably have it, I feel a bit off already.

I know that it's more than most people, but she was wearing low quality masks, going to a non-safe dentist at peak times, and avoiding the booster. I've been nicely pushing her for years, and she brings this shit home. She's also sorry, and I say it's fine because I want her to feel better and recover, but secretly I'm fucking raging.

Sorry to rant. Better on Hexbear than out loud.

  • DayOfDoom [any, any]
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    9 months ago

    As others have said, you're probably misdirecting some amount of anger onto her than against society but we don't know all the details so it's hard to know how much she cares about you, society, etc. I'm guessing low-quality masks means surgical masks or cloth masks because she complains about N95s being uncomfortable or something.

    I'm also assuming you're wondering how much of her taking COVID seriously at all is just because of you. So I don't know, it's a bad situation for everyone. COVID definitely exposed how fucking stupid most westoids are and I already didn't like people so I'm keen to cut people out and write them off. You'll probably be better gently telling her (or reiterating) how you feel about COVID and stuff if you want to continue being around her.

    • Hello_Kitty_enjoyer [none/use name]
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      9 months ago

      because she complains about N95s being uncomfortable or something.

      N95s aren't just uncomfortable, they are very painful and borderline impossible to wear if you have glasses.

      • dat_math [they/them]
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        9 months ago

        they are very painful and borderline impossible to wear if you have glasses.

        Which n95s are you trying and where are your straps located on your head? I use the 3m auras with glasses routinely and they cause me no pain, and only extremely minor discomfort

        • Hello_Kitty_enjoyer [none/use name]
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          9 months ago

          Show This is what I'm using

          This is what I'm using as an N95

          Yours looks similar to the KN95s I've used, but I guess it's better somehow. I actually prefer my rigid N95 because it feels like it keeps more particulate out, but I need my glasses to see and I don't wear contacts. I've been infected through a KN95 before

          • LeninWeave [none/use name]
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            9 months ago

            IIRC N95s shaped like the Aura fit a larger variety of faces than rigid cup shaped ones like the one you posted. They're also usually more comfortable. It might be worth it for you to try some other respirators if the ones you have are painful in some situations.

            Aaron Collins (known as the mask nerd) is a great resource for in depth information on masks if you want to know more.

              • LeninWeave [none/use name]
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                9 months ago

                It also depends a lot on the shape and size of your face and head, so what works best for me might not work so well for you.

                https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TRCZ8Qnf0Z0

                If you want to be more certain of the fit of your respirator, this video outlines in detail how to do a fit test using a solution made from commonly available saccharin sweeteners (make sure you use saccharin and not a different artificial sweetener, bitter fit testing solution can also easily be purchased online as an alternative).

                The process itself isn't too difficult, and the required equipment (a device to aerosolize the solution and a hood to concentrate it in the air around your head) is easy to find and inexpensive.