I call myself “ostensibly cishet” because I look very much like a straight man, but I certainly don’t feel like a man and live in an area where my life would be destroyed if I referred to myself as something else

My use of language in the above sucks, but as a kid, I would always hang out at “the girls table” or in “the girls section” because the guys would always pick on me. It’s made life super difficult because when I meet a friend who is a woman now and ask them to hangout, their assumption is always that I want a partnership.

I literally only have one female friend who isn’t like this. It’s gotta be the fucking patriarchy right

Anyways, it’s so fucking lonely.

Why are apps only for people looking to fuck/get into relationships :/

  • IzyaKatzmann [he/him]
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    9 months ago

    Yeah, uh, men in general scare me I think because I am scared of my dad. Men who appear to have qualities more typically associated with femme-presenting people are the ones I tend to get along with more.

    Obviously I'm not saying some traits or characteristics are essentially femme or for women, only, in the region I'm in, if you asked a bunch of people, probably more than 50% would presume other traits as being masculine rather than the ones I am referring to. Stuff like using words like 'cute', having great tasting cocktails, enjoying spas, hair removal procedures on their face (like between the eyebrows and in the upper cheek), etc.