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  • jaywalker [they/them, any]
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    9 months ago

    This might be ridiculous, but I often wonder about autism and gender and if they're connected in some way. I say that because I'm autistic and often think about how I don't view myself as a man or have any attachment to gender. I think it's something to do with gender being at least partially (almost entirely imo) a social construct and having trouble understanding that aspect of gender creates a kind of agender feeling for me.

    I didn't quite understand this feeling until my late 30s and I'm not sure what it means, but like I gotta work tomorrow and shit so I just try to not think too hard about it ya know? I think if I had a better childhood with a support system and knew about the autism earlier, I might have spent more time thinking about gender in my youth

      • jaywalker [they/them, any]
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        9 months ago

        Yeah, autigender seems to encapsulate what I'm talking about. Also neuroqueering explains some of it for me as I think some of my "rebellious" behaviors like wearing dresses, makeup, etc when I was a teenager in rural Alabama might have really been driven by a demand for autonomy and resistance to gender norms. Although I didn't read a lot about it yet and might be misinterpreting the meaning

          • jaywalker [they/them, any]
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            9 months ago

            I'm not the one to explain this because I literally read about it for the first time today. This is what I read, and then the blog in the comments too because I like a lot of perspectives and wanted a blatant example. https://neuroclastic.com/an-introduction-to-neuroqueer-theory/