jaywalker [they/them, any]

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  • I do the same thing. I've found that I often am dealing with external stimuli that I just never considered to be part of the problem (very late diagnosis).

    So as an example, sometimes when I'm working at my computer I find myself getting frustrated and then slowly start talking to myself in a very similar way as to what you've described here. It's kind of like I don't realize it's happening until I'm already 10 minutes in and then I'm experiencing a lot of executive dysfunction, etc.

    Anyway, the point here is that I started analyzing the relationship between my behavior and my environment more after realizing I was autistic. I noticed that I was actually being overstimulated by normal, everyday things and not recognizing the overstimulation. So maybe the washing machine is on and it's a little too hot/cold, my body hurts, I have to pee, hungry, the lights are bright, etc. This shit all adds up and then I also have work I'm dealing with (I hate it so much), so yeah having a meltdown is inevitable a lot of the time.

    I guess maybe try to think bigger about what you consider external stimuli and see if maybe that makes a difference in how you think about it. Generally I find that there might be one thing I focus on, but it's really 5+ things that just aren't as intense on their own





  • jaywalker [they/them, any]togamesWebfishing is Cool
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    9 days ago

    The guy I replaced got a job making about 250k and for a moment I thought I could do it, but then I remembered that guy is actually smart and understands everything he does while I just copy other people's code and beg copilot for answers. I might be able to trick someone into hiring me for one of those high salary gigs, but surely I would expose myself as a fraud and get fired.


  • From 2008/2009 until 2015/2016, hate crimes in the US were trending down. From 2016 until today, they have trended up. To me, the best explanation for this is the rightwing radicalization (and empowerment of the already radicalized) of many by the first trump campaign and subsequent presidency.

    Outside of hate crimes, we can also see general increases in rightwing violence during this same period (at least according to the feds, not sure that we should even trust any of this data). I'm not saying electing a Dem fixes anything, I'm saying Trump being elected makes it worse because the people doing the hate crimes feel empowered.

    Obama being elected also made it worse, but because the racists felt attacked by the very idea of a black person being prez and were reacting to that, which is why it slowly died down over time. Trump is still here and still actively engaging his base, he never stopped so the radicalization didn't stop either.




  • I must just be really used to this behavior because it doesn't bother me at all, but it's been happening my entire life (I'm over 40). Usually I just agree that it's boring and move on. Sometimes I just keep going anyway because it's not boring to me and in exchange I listen to their boring stuff.

    I'm autistic, so my experience/interpretation is likely very different from the average person. I generally prefer a person to tell me if they're bored because I'm not going to pick it up any other way (when I try I usually just misinterpret something)

    However, the person you're describing here seems like someone I would avoid. Anyone who gets defensive when you tell them they are hurting your feelings probably does feel attacked or blamed. Likely because they're used to being attacked and blamed by their family or whatnot. Self-esteem can also play a big role in this kind of defensiveness.

    Basically, they gotta deal with their own shit before they'll ever stop this kind of behavior. You don't have to put up with it, but you probably won't get them to change either. The best thing you can do is communicate as clearly as you can why they're hurting you and then just stop interacting with them. They'll either learn or they won't. If that's difficult for you, then don't even bother explaining yourself because you don't owe them anything. I think explaining it can help people in the long-term, especially if you're not the only one saying it.






  • No, but only the person can really do anything about it. Also in some cases it's perfectly legal, like if you use a photo that's in the public domain. I think any official government photos/paintings would be considered public domain. Satire and parody of political figures are protected by the 1st amendment, so caricatures are probably always legal. Really tho what politician is gonna be mad about this? Free publicity and all




  • It's not like Epic set the terms, so not really hypocritical of them. That's to keep Google from immediately capturing the market again, though. Otherwise they would just spend enough money to make all the top apps exclusives and that would prevent competition from forming (in an ideal setting, none of this shit will really matter it's just gonna end up being Google, epic, and maybe 2 more that will end up being about the same as just having Google)