It seems like the person not online as much sort of simulates a lot of unwritten social rules that only people who are able to learn those rules are able to see.

Can someone please tell me they know what I mean by this

  • stigsbandit34z [they/them]
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    7 months ago

    And I originally matched with her on hinge, she ignored me for 3 months until she gave me her number then we met up in person and she ghosted. And now she’s fucking following me on TikTok and ignoring my messages? What is the other reading comrades I’m hanging onto the social order by a thread and looking into a void in the pit below

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]
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      7 months ago

      Based on this limited information, some possible explanations:

      • Your content is good and relevant to her, but she doesn't actually like you
      • She doesn't know it's you
      • She is neurodivergent
      • She is socially anxious or inexperienced
      • She likes you but thinks you don't like her

      🤷

      Do you have any mutuals you could ask?

      • MayoPete [he/him, comrade/them]
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        7 months ago

        Or maybe she wants to be a friend, but from more of a distance?

        IDK, I feel like people forget there's humans behind these accounts online and we collectively lost our ability to communicate how we feel. Ghosting sucks and IMO comes off as immature.