Undiagnosed dude here, been accused of it my whole life and people I assume that I have it, yadda yadda
But at every point in my life, I’ve lost people because they grew up while I remained childish. And I guess I’m at that point again, I didn’t want something about my personality I can’t change be the reason I lose people who are important to me
Does this make any sense
Nah I agree, "mature";"grown-up";"adult"-- all a social construct that essentially refers to the sacrificing of your humanity to assimilate and have your labor exploited without complaining. I'd assert that this is a big reason autism is marginalized, as most of us simply cannot abide by this rule, and this rule is a necessary component for capitalism to exist.
"You will stick to doing things that you are required/expected to do, and every expression you have must be some flavor of dutiful submission."