• Awoo [she/her]
    hexbear
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    2 months ago

    I think the biggest thing that Hexbear has going for it is that there is a culture here that doesn't involve pandering to the voting audience.

    Every conversation I have here feels like the other person is genuinely talking to me, not talking to an audience through me but talking to me directly, considering my words and seriously engaging with me even when we might disagree.

    Over on reddit getting a real interaction with someone that doesn't involve in some way an attempt at pandering to possible voters is nearly impossible. Everything is influenced by the system. Everyone isn't really talking to each other but instead they talk to the audience.

    • @redtea@lemmygrad.ml
      hexbear
      9
      2 months ago

      That's a great point. Now that you've articulated it, I think it's the same with other platforms. Now that you've planted the thought… Others doing that wasn't the only thing that turned me away from other platforms. I didn't like that I did the same thing, driven by the algorithms and the cultures.

      • Awoo [she/her]
        hexbear
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        2 months ago

        Yeah I don't like it myself, it feels like there's way more dignity when we're talking personally. Like we all actually think about the other person as a human more. We even make more allowances for mood swings too, people have shit days it happens.

    • SootySootySoot [any]
      hexbear
      7
      2 months ago

      Everyone isn't really talking to each other but instead they talk to the audience.

      I do agree that is it. I think this may be the fundamental, awful problem with modern-day social media and basically all forms of online interaction, even big Discord servers. To actually have a conversation with someone is basically impossible, you're just only ever people at podiums shouting into the void.