I had to cut out my father and my paternal grandparents because they literally flat-out refused, by their own admission, to respect that I'm transgender, going as far to say, in their own words, that they will NEVER be okay with it and guess what they did when I told them I want to go no contact? They accused me of being close-minded for excluding them over a "mere difference of opinion!" Maybe some of these parents that PragerU is talking about should get awareness. You can't negotiate something that is non-negotiable. If I say "It is a requirement for you to not deadname me to be in my life," and they explicitly admit that they refuse to stop deadnaming me, then what's the middle ground? Nothing. They were trying so hard to have their cake and eat it too, and they were going as far to give a whole "BuT what iF iT'S OkAy fOr US To DEAdnAMe You ThO?," trying to justify their deadnaming instead of simply saying "Well, you're right! We don't want to stop deadnaming you, so maybe it makes sense for you to cut us off!"
I don't even understand how they think that'll work in practice. What are they gonna do when my appearance gets too feminine for their own comfort? What are they gonna do when my voice starts sounding like something they're not used to? What are they gonna do when I meet someone they know and they want to introduce me by my deadname even though literally everyone in my life besides them already knows me as Angel and that name is on my government documents too? It's such a mind-boggling way of thinking that the only form of their logic I can derive is that they somehow think that being in my life will manipulate me into not transitioning and being content with being cis, but clearly that isn't the case because I was out to them for a bit over 6 years before giving them Angel's ban hammer.
They have two options: be transphobic or be in my life, but they can't have both. They wanted so hard to be transphobic that they stayed out of my life, even though I sense that they'll still try to disrespect my boundaries sometime in the future. They literally used my affirming gay uncle as a proxy to wish me happy birthday, and that was a few weeks ago. It's sad because it indicates that they don't get the memo and that they should operate under the premise that I'm not in their life anymore because I'm not! Who does it benefit? Do they think I, the one who cut them out, somehow think it's a "good, noble gesture" for them to go so far to wish me happy birthday when their numbers are blocked and I haven't interacted with them since I told them to fuck off? Mind you, my grandparents especially are the kind of people who would agree with PragerU on a lot of subjects, so this post isn't anything surprising to see from Pennis Drager.
I had to cut out my father and my paternal grandparents because they literally flat-out refused, by their own admission, to respect that I'm transgender, going as far to say, in their own words, that they will NEVER be okay with it and guess what they did when I told them I want to go no contact? They accused me of being close-minded for excluding them over a "mere difference of opinion!" Maybe some of these parents that PragerU is talking about should get awareness. You can't negotiate something that is non-negotiable. If I say "It is a requirement for you to not deadname me to be in my life," and they explicitly admit that they refuse to stop deadnaming me, then what's the middle ground? Nothing. They were trying so hard to have their cake and eat it too, and they were going as far to give a whole "BuT what iF iT'S OkAy fOr US To DEAdnAMe You ThO?," trying to justify their deadnaming instead of simply saying "Well, you're right! We don't want to stop deadnaming you, so maybe it makes sense for you to cut us off!"
I don't even understand how they think that'll work in practice. What are they gonna do when my appearance gets too feminine for their own comfort? What are they gonna do when my voice starts sounding like something they're not used to? What are they gonna do when I meet someone they know and they want to introduce me by my deadname even though literally everyone in my life besides them already knows me as Angel and that name is on my government documents too? It's such a mind-boggling way of thinking that the only form of their logic I can derive is that they somehow think that being in my life will manipulate me into not transitioning and being content with being cis, but clearly that isn't the case because I was out to them for a bit over 6 years before giving them Angel's ban hammer.
They have two options: be transphobic or be in my life, but they can't have both. They wanted so hard to be transphobic that they stayed out of my life, even though I sense that they'll still try to disrespect my boundaries sometime in the future. They literally used my affirming gay uncle as a proxy to wish me happy birthday, and that was a few weeks ago. It's sad because it indicates that they don't get the memo and that they should operate under the premise that I'm not in their life anymore because I'm not! Who does it benefit? Do they think I, the one who cut them out, somehow think it's a "good, noble gesture" for them to go so far to wish me happy birthday when their numbers are blocked and I haven't interacted with them since I told them to fuck off? Mind you, my grandparents especially are the kind of people who would agree with PragerU on a lot of subjects, so this post isn't anything surprising to see from Pennis Drager.
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For what it's worth, I'm super happy that you're here
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