• ComradeRat [he/him, they/them]
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    5 months ago

    Sorry if this is invalidating, idk how to phrase my feelings or put together my thoughts in a encompassing way here. I want it to be comforting but as an allo person I’m also being kind-of defensive here and honestly I’m worried about that being a toxic behavior from me

    No worries comrade.

    Your Catan comparison is spot on tbh. I'd only add that that allonormativity also says "it is more important to play catan with someone you are sexing with than a regular friend"

    • EelBolshevikism [none/use name]
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      5 months ago

      I think that’s somewhat allonormativity, but also a big chunk of people who have intertwined sex/romance drives, so that specifically is kind of a clusterfuck