It's just super frustrating seeing people who are supposedly my brothers and sisters, who I've been there to the hilt, who know that my partner is struggling, who know that I'm terrified. We've gone through the science and racial and class inequalities together and they've voiced how they should mask a hundred times. And then they come to meet me IRL totally fucking unmasked, without even a fucking apology.
Well, if you're "back to normal", I'll sit and watch you eat outside, but I'm not taking my mask off in front of you. I'll wait till you finish your meal, and I'll head home early. If I've complained about no masking two times already, you heard it enough, I'm not going to complain again.
Am I overreacting?
Edit: for those of griping that you're not allowed to do COVID minimisation in this comm. These would be valid answer:
- Maybe your friend forgot
- Maybe your friend was tired
- Maybe your friend was hung over
- Your friend made a mistake but you should forgive him
- I'm not yet fully covid conscious, but I'm trying
- We can't all be perfect. Hopefully they do better next time.
Not acceptable:
- Oh here's a tidbit about masks that's been disproven in the science literature 10x already
- Oh the chuds and libs aren't masking, and I feel peer pressured
No absolutely not. I think unless they've done something really egregious to you though, it's not worth getting too angry about. We all know the amount of propaganda we've been subjected to regarding Covid, the absolutely massive push to sweep it under the rug. To some degree I think you can understand why they're not masking anymore, even while understanding that it's wrong and dangerous and unprincipled.
Obviously if they've been really egregious about not masking around you and disregarding your (or your partner's) boundaries though that would be another thing, and a little more anger is justified.
Fair enough answer. I'm trying to be chill about it.
Yeah I think the word you used, disappointment, is a good one. I’ve been having to come to terms with that in my own life, people who have not necessarily been horrible to me, but in whom I’m very disappointed and surprised honestly in their lack of principles. My relationship has changed with a lot of people, and honestly there are a ton of people in my life who I now feel like I can’t trust.
That classic parenting phrase - “I’m not mad, just disappointed” - is a good way to sum up how I’ve been feeling
Is there something else going on or is it just COVID?
Oh no I’m mostly just referring to covid
It definitely woke me up to what kind of people they are. I used to be the kind of guy that was nice and cool to everyone, and COVID definitely made that go 180°.