I don't understand why people try to frame compliments in such a weird ass way. Just say "I like your hair, it's pretty 😁" that's it. BOOM! You have done it. You gave a normal regular compliment and probably made the other person feel good about how they look.
It's so weird people put needless (and most likely rude) qualifiers. Second option, just quietly appreciate the nuanced and unique beauty of another person, you don't need to say shit. You can just shut the fuck up. That's allowed.
It may not be conscious on the part of the white woman in this example, but this type of compliment is doubling as a way for her to give herself a healthy lib pat on the back compliment for being an ally or whatever
God those people are the WORST! It's using an opportunity to be nice and decent to another person but you find a way to actually make it about yourself (the rhetorical yourself, not you you the commenter). I hate that shit, cause decency is sadly rare these days, and finding a way to present it to someone and then take it away is just vile and scummy.
I learned to do this while studying a second language. I had to rely on simple words and I've grown fond of them even in my mother tongue (USSR Russian).
Counterpoint to option 2: complimenting people is actually cool and good, so long as you're normal. Caveat: if you're cis-het-male presenting, maybe it won't be as well received. But above all, just be normal.
im a normal dude who gives compliments all the time. it literally is just as simple as be normal, in my experience. ive said "I love your hair!" to black women verbatim before (and also other women but just considering the context here), and they were like "thanks!" and we moved on with our lives.
I don't understand why people try to frame compliments in such a weird ass way. Just say "I like your hair, it's pretty 😁" that's it. BOOM! You have done it. You gave a normal regular compliment and probably made the other person feel good about how they look.
It's so weird people put needless (and most likely rude) qualifiers. Second option, just quietly appreciate the nuanced and unique beauty of another person, you don't need to say shit. You can just shut the fuck up. That's allowed.
It may not be conscious on the part of the white woman in this example, but this type of compliment is doubling as a way for her to give herself a healthy lib pat on the back compliment for being an ally or whatever
God those people are the WORST! It's using an opportunity to be nice and decent to another person but you find a way to actually make it about yourself (the rhetorical yourself, not you you the commenter). I hate that shit, cause decency is sadly rare these days, and finding a way to present it to someone and then take it away is just vile and scummy.
Going off a tangent but this arrogant self-centering and posturing is such a quintessentially westoid attitude
Will the west declining cure them of this poisonous chauvinism?
When the food runs short thore quintessential wertoids lack ability to share with others will likely cause some curing to happen.
Crackers attempting to say anything normal about black people challenge
☠️💀☠ SUBURBAN NIGHTMARE HELLISH ELITE DIFFICULTY ☠️💀☠️
I learned to do this while studying a second language. I had to rely on simple words and I've grown fond of them even in my mother tongue (USSR Russian).
Counterpoint to option 2: complimenting people is actually cool and good, so long as you're normal. Caveat: if you're cis-het-male presenting, maybe it won't be as well received. But above all, just be normal.
im a normal dude who gives compliments all the time. it literally is just as simple as be normal, in my experience. ive said "I love your hair!" to black women verbatim before (and also other women but just considering the context here), and they were like "thanks!" and we moved on with our lives.