I'm not a very angry person, I don't really have it in me to be genuinely pissed most of the time. Sometimes I'll get irritated, and I can usually kinda DBT my way through it, but honestly I'm really pissed at my ex. The more I think about everything horrible she did and continues doing, the more I kinda spiral into being pissed and it's not helping me at all but I don't really know how to decompress all of it. I'm rightfully pissed, she did some truly nuclear shit I'd need content warnings for, and having that anger is healthy at some level. But like I said, I need to get my mind off this shit so I don't become a bitter divorced dad lol
Felt the same way after breaking up with ex. I just had to sit it out I guess. Sometimes I couldn’t sleep because of the feeling and distracting myself was difficult. After half a year of talking about it with friends and just thinking about it and trying to figure out what exactly made my ex do the shitty things he did I kind of accepted that he’s a bad person but not worth as much of my time.
I don’t think there’s a magical way to suddenly not be angry anymore, you just have to go through it for a while.
I’m sorry you’re dealing with that though.