I got a bachelors degree in mechanical engineering from a ‘good school’ and yet I never got a good entry level job in the field so I was just wandering the wastelands for a long while before I got a good corporate bullshit job from which I got fired after 3 years and now I have no actual engineering skills and tens of thousand in college debt

I’m 33 and live with my parents and I’m in this constant cycle of living with them until I find a good job in some far away city. They live in a remote place where the only jobs available are 7.50 and yet the living costs are absurd so really, you’re pretty much working just to work. The problem is I can’t move out and do human things such as live by own and have a meaningful because I need a decent salary to survive, and that can only happen if I get something in a far away big city. I don’t want to have to fend for peanuts living paycheck to paycheck(i’ve already tried that a couple of times) in some rathole in a city but I also hate living with my parents so I’m forced in an all or nothing mindset where I need to have a decent salary. I wish I could just take a low wage jobs in some other city but the logistics don’t allow me to.

I feel like I’m rambling, I just feel incredibly stuck, my social life and dating lives are nonexistent and I’m completely fucking broke. I just masturbate all day in my parents house. I have a degree that should be lucrative according to this shitass society, I’m not the archetype of a basement dwelling reddit loser because I do have drive and have moved from place to place and worked and clawed my way through life and stay fit and know how to talk to women and I constantly feel like I shouldn’t be where I’m at but…I kind of am a fucking loser.

Experience shows me that, I guess, this too shall pass and I should land on my feet but god damn I’m regressing constantly and every aspect of my life can’t be moved forward if Instay with my parents in this town. Sorry to rant

  • tamagotchicowboy [he/him]
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    4 months ago

    Just keep applying to whatever you can find, if you need to leave stuff about yourself off and try to get into one of those horseshit min wage jobs since some money coming in is better than none, especially if your parents are chill that helps you save money. Use chatbots to piece together a bullshit resume and cover letters, its chatbots, unicru personality tests and ATS AI bullshit all the way down to fucking capitalist hell. Play every trick you can to get a job. This is a failing of society rather than any personal one, never was, never will be, every time I see someone in a situation like yours (myself included, exact same scenario a few years older) it should trip that whole shake of injustice, not self deprecation. Survive is the game, it doesn't look pretty for most on this planet, and especially not in capitalist hellholes.

    With all the hexagonal bears having employment issues maybe our own jobhacks sub should be in order.

    • lemmyseizethemeans@lemmygrad.ml
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      4 months ago

      I agree with the majority of this except the chatbots and AI part. Having just gon through a stack of resumes to choose a candidate I can tell you the ones that were generated by AI stood out and were immediately discarded. So disingenuous I didn't give them a second thought

      • GaveUp [she/her]
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        4 months ago

        Why do you give a shit about gatekeeping jobs for your employer lol

          • GaveUp [she/her]
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            4 months ago

            I don't think the cool people are the ones putting 110% effort into their resume over the ones AI gening it lol

            • tamagotchicowboy [he/him]
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              4 months ago

              Right, this is a rarity, most companies (most we'll be applying to anyhow) are larger and have all this automated.

            • lemmyseizethemeans@lemmygrad.ml
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              4 months ago

              Don't want 110%. Real talk. I went through over 40 resumes found 8 potential candidates and 4 made it to final interview based on personality, not on resume. The resume just give (and I hate to use this word) vibe. If it looks like bullshit compared to a resume that looks honest and human, the choice is clear. Be honest, be enthusiastic, and you're more likely to get an interview. Just my 2 cents

              • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                4 months ago

                Ik there are real systemic reasons for the fact that you can't let everyone gets a position but for fucks sake you need to grovel a bit more about being the fucking scumbag gatekeeper between human beings and their basic needs based on some meritocratic bullshit ideological justifications. Your advice is somewhat appreciated but you have a real shitty attitude and really need to consider whether you are doing enough for the leftist cause to warrant your presence here in good faith.

                • lemmyseizethemeans@lemmygrad.ml
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                  4 months ago

                  Sorry. Intention was never to make anyone upset just trying to help. FWIW I'm a communist party member (where I live there is an actual communist party) and I'm working to make sure people are unionized. I want nothing more than the destruction of this fucking system but as we are still trapped in it.,

      • tamagotchicowboy [he/him]
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        4 months ago

        I always heard there's a few rounds of AI reading before you get read by a person (if ever), and in your case the applicant can always rewrite to sound less AI-y. For instance, when you submit your paper for publication to the world's laziest journal remove 'some say' and 'certainly', but you'll probably be fine.